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Christians and Erectile Dysfunction Medication

Here’s a question I received from our anonymous Have a Question page about dealing with erectile dysfunction: Hey Jay! Have you ever dealt with the Christian’s response to medications that are designed to help men with E.D.? I’m into my 60’s now and the equipment

Discussion about initiating sex

We’re going to try something a bit different today, we’re going to try a discussion question.  Basically, I’m not going to write a post, I’m just going to ask a couple of questions and open the floor to comments below. Because sometimes I get questions

SWM026: Last Minute Father’s Day Gift Ideas

Father’s Day is this Sunday, and I thought we’d share some last-minute Father’s Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast.  We’ve got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an investment, but all of them you can manage to pull off even the day before Father’s Day.

Initiation only counts if your spouse recognizes it

My wife and I were talking about people’s responses to yesterday’s post.  Our conversation let to what initiation was.  We had just had sex, and I mentioned that I had initiated that encounter.  Initially she disagreed saying “I came to bed naked”.  I countered saying

Be Authentic about your Sexual Desire

I get a lot of emails from spouses.  I get to read about a lot of marriages in those emails.  I get to read about how spouses react, how they think, their struggles, their concerns, their hopes, their fears.  One of the big struggles I

Garbage In – Garbage Out

When I was in school for software engineering, we had a lot of acronyms that floated around.  One of the was GIGO.  Garbage In – Garbage Out. The point was that we always had to validate what the user put into a computer program, because

We tend to do what we like

I received this anonymous question from our Have A Question page back in a couple of months ago. I’m married for 29 years. I love being with my husband sexually but why do I always have to remind him slow and soft during foreplay.  You

I miss porn

Some days I miss porn.  Isn’t that sick?  It’s true though.  And I think a lot of people who have quit porn miss it from time to time. Same goes for masturbating.  And often the two are tied together, but they aren’t always.  There are

Your friends are fake

It’s true.  We live in a world full of fake people.  We watch them, we compare ourselves to them, we judge ourselves by their standard.  But they’re all fake.  I’m talking about our social media friends.  Our social networks of fans, followers and peeps. We

Book Review: Every Body Matters

As some of you may or may not remember, a couple of months ago, I started a study with a group of about 30 people for two reasons: To get stats on the relationship between fitness and sex To get together a like minded group of