A lot of people find their way here because there’s something they’re carrying that they don’t know how to talk about.
Something about sex, marriage, desire, faith, or frustration that doesn’t feel safe to bring up anywhere else.

If that’s you, you’re not alone.

If you have a question and you’re not sure who to ask, you can send it to me here.

There are two ways to do that:

1. Email me directly at [email protected]
If you’re comfortable emailing me, that often gives me the option to ask a few follow-up questions so I can respond in a way that actually fits your situation. You don’t need to have it perfectly thought out. Messy is fine.

2. Ask anonymously
If you’d rather not include your name or contact information, you can use the anonymous form below. Share as much or as little as you want.

When a question is sent anonymously, the only way I can respond is by answering it publicly on the blog or podcast. If you include contact information, I may be able to reply privately first or ask a clarifying question before answering.

If you don’t know where to start, just start writing. That’s enough.
It doesn’t have to be perfectly formatted and don’t worry about how long it is. If it’s short and light on context, I’ll answer it in a more general way so it can still be helpful. If it’s long and detailed, I may trim it when publishing, but I will read every word.

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