Topics include:
Why am I not interested in sexy any more after having a baby?
How do I get my wife to rest without guilt?
Why does my wife dismiss my advice when she asks for it?
How do I get my wife engaged in sexual growth?
Are men infatuated with their ejaculate?
Category Archives: Reader’s Questions
SWM 123 – AQ – Enjoying anal sex, periods and vacation, aging and orgasms, fantasizing, and condoms for handjobs
Topics include:
The monthly masturbation challenge
How do I make anal sex enjoyable for her?
Periods and vacations and sex
Aging and orgasm struggles
How do I know if I’m in right?
Does fantasizing about my husband make it a shared experience?
Condoms for handjobs
Resources for newlywed virgins
SWM 119 – Vibrators & dildos, roleplay, talking to your kids about sex, and more
Topics include:
How do you use a vibrator?
Is roleplaying marriage a sin?
Will a dildo make me unsatisfied with my husband?
Wife makes excuses about everything
When to start talking to your kids about sex?
Wife caught me watching porn
Is masturbation without porn a sin?
SWM 115 – Strapons, Exes and Foreskins
Topics include:
Can I use a strap-on on my wife?
My husband’s ex-girlfriend
What’s a foreskin for?
SWM 113 – Orgasms and age, calling your spouse daddy, guilt from initiating
Topics Include:
A husband’s changing orgasms
Can widowers masturbate
Husband won’t stop masturbation habit
Calling husband “daddy”
Feeling guilty about initiating sex
SWM 112 – Do men have it harder when it comes to sexual expectations?
Answering the question:
Hi Jay, I’ve noticed a dichotomy when it comes to expectations for male and female sex drives and what’s considered desirable sexual performance. As a man, I feel like there’s a lot of pressure to perform sexually. This means being able to become sexually aroused when seeing a naked woman (my wife in this case), being able to maintain the erection and having the sexual stamina to keep from climaxing for a sustained interval (not sure what the average woman considers desirable stamina but let’s say 10 minutes?) Not to mention the societal pressure that men face when it comes to the size of their penis. I myself feel insecure about not having a large enough penis. Who doesn’t want to add a couple of inches to their penis? I’ve become somewhat perplexed/frustrated because I feel like there are very few expectations placed on females. We live in an age when “all women are supposed to be seen as beautiful.” It seems that females are simply expected to be willing to participate in sex when the mood is right, and that’s it. There’s no expectation on the size or quality of female genitals, no expectation on their ability to get aroused or maintain arousal, and no expectations on the level of physical or mental effort they invest in sexual activity. It seems they are just supposed to be the recipient while the man does the thrusting. Even when it comes to the subject of natural lubrication, there’s a stigma around a man who can’t naturally achieve and maintain an erection, but for the woman, there doesn’t appear to be a stigma around the inability to produce sufficient arousal fluid (vaginal wetness). As it pertains to the topic of pornography, I’ve read many articles about the dangers of pornography for men, how it leads to sexual desensitization, and when paired with masturbation, decreased sexual stamina and even erectile dysfunction. I can’t say I’ve read many articles discussing how viewing pornography is detrimental for women. Is it just me, or is there a double standard when it comes to sexual expectations for men and women?
SWM 111 – Sex in heaven, oral sex positions, recovering from affairs, wanting to be a mom
Topics include:
Sex in heaven
Oral sex positions
How to recover from an affair
I want to become a mom
SWM 110 – Noticing other women, forgotten anniversary, disconnecting during foreplay and more
Topics include:
My wife feels disrespected because I notice other women
Wife is hurt but not healing after years
Wife disconnects during foreplay
What can we do during fertile days
Oral sex questions
Husband doesn’t know our anniversary date
Should I be worried if I’m late?
In-laws over-share about sex
Fantasies for couples
Low-drive husband
Period sex
SWM 109 – Crossdressing, reframing duty sex, wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t
Topics Include:
Crossdressing
Reframing “duty” sex
Wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t
Afraid to have more children
SWM 107 – Wife wants too much sex, repeat unproductive fights, boundaries during dating and sexy underwear for men
Topics include:
Wife wants too much sex
Couple needs counselling
Keep having the same unproductive fight
Make boundaries before you start dating
Sexy underwear for men
SWM 106 – Nude pictures, sex toys, asexual wife, wife not in love with me, wish my wife had a bigger butt
Topics:
Is it okay to take nude pictures and videos of each other?
Limon by Minna discount
Asexual wife?
Wife loves me, but isn’t in love with me
Wife isn’t interested in improving our sex life
Wish I married a bigger butt
Secretly feed her ejaculate
Husband says my vagina stinks and tastes bad
50-year-old wife refuses to have sex
Do we need a counselor?