Category Archives: Podcast

SWM 056 – How To Feel Connected During Sex

What does it mean to feel “connected” during sex. For many spouses, when their husband or wife says “I don’t feel connected during sex”, they get quite confused. They’re thinking “I am literally inside of you/you are literally inside of me, how can we be MORE connected?!”

But of course, they’re not talking about a physical connection, but rather an emotional, mental or spiritual connection.

SWM 055 – Anonymous Questions from March 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Topics include:
Is fingering fornication?
Is it wrong to fulfill my wife’s fantasy of having a gang-bang?
How to tell my husband sex is bad when he drinks?
Husband’s penis keeps falling out during sex
Wife doesn’t want to dress up for me

SWM 054 – Anonymous Questions – February 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous questions from February 2020.

Topics include:
How can I become more comfortable masturbating?
Why wouldn’t he use lube?
How to have “team sex” (not what you think)
Husband can’t be emotionally intimate or trust me
Meta discussion about piercings
How do I start to fix my marriage?
Becoming more sexually engaged

SWM 053 – Anonymous Questions – December 2019 & January 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020

Topics Include:
Gang bang fantasy
How to make sex not feel like an obligation
How to get past sebacks during foreplay
Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm
A warning about “Boundaries” and how to mitigate the damage it can cause
Long term effects of using a vibrator

SWM 051 – Anonymous Questions – October & November 2019 – Types of orgasms, sleeping during sex & more

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Answering reader’s questions about:
Other types of orgasms
How to deal with a transgendered friend?
Is crossdressing for comfort wrong?
How to deal with an unrepentant husband?
Orgasmless sex (on purpose)
Wife sleeping during sex
Husband won’t come to bed at a decent time
What if you medically can’t have sex?
How do you switch from being single and chaste to married and sexual?

SWM 050 – Anonymous Questions from September 2019 – Deployed Spouses, Passive Sex Partners, Sleep Apnea and How to Boost Attraction for your Spouse

Anonymous Questions from our readers

In this episode, we’re tackling the subjects:

  • How do you deal with deployment and sex drives
  • How do we improve sexual intimacy
  • How to improve our sex life
  • Satisfaction and adventurousness
  • How do you get your wife to be more dominant in bed
  • Asking doesn’t work, not asking doesn’t work
  • Husband has sleep apnea
  • What should teenagers do instead of masturbate?

SWM 049 – Focus on your spouse, not the model

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what sort of sex drive you have, because it can change. Focus more on your spouse, and less on fitting them into a box. That way, if things change, you can adjust to the changes, rather that be stuck on a model that doesn’t match your dynamic anymore.

SWM 045 – Anonymous Questions from May and June 2019

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Today we’re tackling such questions as:
How important is communication during sex?
Is it wrong to not want your wife to lose weight?
Someone asks if they should have an affair
How do you find time to have sex when you have young children?
Does premature ejaculation affect your sex drive?
What do you do if your husband won’t quit masturbating alone?
Is it still considered crossdressing if it’s for comfort?
A question about male chastity or female-led relationships.
Should you suggest a boob job to your wife?
A question about language in the bedroom.