Category Archives: Podcast

SWM024: Why Do Men Think Sex is a Reward?

Often men see sex as a reward, even when it’s not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don’t have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is this?  I think there are three reasons.

SWM023: It’s all about the relationship

The Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God’s relationship with us many times.  I think there’s a good reason for it.  In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all the do’s and don’ts, both in marriage, and in the Bible, point to one thing: the relationship.

SWM022: Does my spouse find me unattractive

A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn’t asked him.  She had no indication that he wasn’t, but she had this deep seated fear that he wasn’t.

SWM021: Spice Jar

I didn’t have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar – A printable game to help you change things up in the bedroom tonight.

SWM020: 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage

I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn’t bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy.  Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person’s perspective, to seek unselfish solutions.  But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging.