All posts by Jay Dee

SWM 104 – February 2023 Anonymous Questions

Answering Anonymous Questions about Married Sex

Topics:
Women use sex to control men, so men should be allowed to masturbate
Appreciating beauty vs lusting
Playlist for sex
Tenuto
Squeamish about handjobs
Another question about masturbation
How do I get my wife to masturbate for me?
Is oral sex okay?
Are men polygamous by nature?

SWM 102 – December 2022 Anonymous Questions

Answering Anonymous Questions about Married Sex

Topics include:
Does my wife know what I’m doing to her?
I want to share orgasms with my husband
What are your thoughts on BDSM?
Is bondage a problem for me?
Wife doesn’t like direct clitoral stimulation
How do I hold my wife accountable?

SWM 101 – Why does my spouse always push for more during sex?

Answering this question:

Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn’t enough. I do many, I mean many, of the examples you use, even the F WORD. How do I get him to be grateful for what I do instead of needing more? I always feel inadequate.

SWM 098 – October 2022 Anonymous Questions

Answering Anonymous Questions about Married Sex

Topics include:
Where does the energy come from?
Mutual masturbation
Sharing fantasies and machines
Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming
Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz
Why do married men masturbate?
How do you meet other people?
Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight?

SWM 097 – September 2022 Anonymous Questions

Answering Anonymous Questions about Married Sex

Topics include:
Where are you?
How to hide bruises
What role do I have in God changing my heart?
Mother of 3 young kids isn’t as interested in sex as husband
How to recover from faking orgasms?
Husband wants to be pursued
Where do you get your garbage theology?

SWM 096 – Why men being submissive is problematic

A post in response to this question:

Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can’t be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don’t want to ask my wife because it’s an awkward topic.

SWM 095 – August 2022 Anonymous Questions

Answering Anonymous Questions about Married Sex

Topics Include:
Coming clean about faking orgasms
Wanting wife to wear a diaper
Wet and messy / humiliation fetish
Is oral sex a measure of love?
Married and lonely
Chastity play
Sex outdoors
Pre-orgasmic wife

SWM 094 – Anonymous Question: Who is more righteous?

A reader poses a question:
There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The second person follows Biblical Courtship (or whatever you want to call it), saves sex for marriage, only courts/dates Christians, but never finds a spouse and ends up as a 40-year-old childless virgin.
Who was the more righteous of the two?