Keeping Sex Fun Archives - Uncovering Intimacy

SWM 083 – What is “feeling naughty”?

Hi Jay,
Just a general question, what is the feeling of “feeling naughty”? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply “different” as “naughty” as maybe we don’t have another reference point in our vocabulary? There’s no great issue in our marriage or anything around the topic, just curious for your thoughts. But as a little context that got me thinking – my wife and I had a night in a hotel recently to celebrate our anniversary (which was actually 6 months ago, better late than never). As a treat and for fun, I bought her some lingerie that had a hole in the crotch area. It was very sexy and she loved them and we made love while she wore them. To which she exclaimed “It feels so naughty!”…which I had to agree with, but I’d probably describe more like lots of “fun” whether naughtiness was an element or not. Thanks for your good work!

Last minute gift ideas for Father’s Day

Anyone else feel like Father’s Day sort of sneaked up on them? I mean, Mother’s Day seems to have a lot of ads, I feel like there was lots of warning. But Father’s Day? I mean, I get flyers to the hardware store to buy power

SWM 052 – Are Dominance/Submission Games in the Bedroom OK?

A reader asks:
I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read your post a while ago where you mentioned that humiliation isn’t good for your partner in the long term. Would you consider this to be humiliation? What about the trend to call men “daddy” in bed?

SWM 046 – Responsive desire is a blessing

Responsive desire isn’t an abnormality, disability or curse. It’s a blessing. Once you learn to work with it, it can actually lead to an amazing sex life.

Last Minute Father’s Day Gifts He’ll Love

Well, Father’s Day is this Sunday! If you’re a wife, and just had a minor panic attack. Don’t worry, I have you covered with three potential gifts.

SWM041 – How do you stay interested long term?

Are there things you have to do to keep interest in your spouse? Here are 7 tips to help you stay interested and renew attraction in your spouse.

Are you sabotaging your sex life like I do?

I’ve spent the last few years trying to get better insight into the mind of a spouse who desires less sex. Why? Because I’m married to one, and one of my goals in life is to make her feel known and loved. Unfortunately, the more

Is it okay to engage in pegging in marriage

Is it okay to engage in pegging in a marriage?

Are you a Christian who is curious about pegging? Or perhaps your spouse brought it up. In this post, we tackle the moral questions as well as trying to understand why someone might want to do this.

Black Friday deals to spice up your marriage!

Well, it’s Thanksgiving in the US … you know, because they’re trying to catch up with us Canadians who had Thanksgiving last month 🙂 Of course, with the American Thanksgiving comes Black Friday and some crazy deals. So, I thought I’d write a quick post

The dishes can wait – How to make sex a priority

Do you ever find that you have so much to do in the evening, dishes, laundry, catching up on TV shows, etc., that by the time you get to bed, you’re too tired to have sex? With 5 kids to clean up after, we definitely

A day of sex

We tried something recently that I thought I’d share, because it might interest some of you. Warning: If you’re currently in a marriage where your spouse is actively gate-keeping or refusing sex, don’t read this. It will just irritate you. I was listening to some

Jay Dee on Should Christians read erotic literature?: “You can’t justify one sin with another.” Jan 17, 09:23

Anonymous on Should Christians read erotic literature?: “What about men with wives who will not, ever, be intimate with him at no fault of his own?” Jan 17, 01:35

Mike on My Husband Admitted To Masturbating, How Do I Get Over The Hurt?: “There is a bigger issue than his self control. Sex once a month is completely unexceptionable. This is neglect on…” Jan 16, 18:10

Jay Dee on Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or single: “Oh, you mean this comment I replied to where I said what I removed and why? Or maybe this one…” Jan 16, 09:04

Glen on Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or single: “We have had discussions this in the past but masturbation counterpoint is one you tend to “delete” one that which…” Jan 16, 00:27

Jay Dee on Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or single: “1) You made a claim masturbation is natural and good, but didn’t back it up with any evidence or logic…” Jan 16, 00:03

Glen on Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or single: “Late to the gAme here but this one is so tiring, masturbation is natural and good. If you need a…” Jan 15, 22:56

Jay Dee on Is it alright to ejaculate on my wife?: “In our marriage, this didn’t come from porn. It was merely a practical happenstance that continued into a pattern, and…” Jan 14, 11:15

M on Is it alright to ejaculate on my wife?: “Technically both of us could only provide conjecture to answer the question of origin. One article I read pointed pointed…” Jan 14, 10:37

Anonymous on Putting the kids first will destroy your marriage: “I am sorry for what he’s doing to you” Jan 14, 09:02