Drop “should” from your vocabulary this year

“Should” is a dangerous word that gets used far too often.  Now, I’m sure there are some appropriate times where it can be used, but often we don’t use it appropriately.  Often we use “should” where it’s actually harmful to what our goals

The best way to discuss sexual fantasies

The best way to discuss sexual fantasies

Sharing a sexual fantasy with your spouse can be daunting.  I’ve received many emails from husbands and wives who have opened up to their spouse about something they want and get so completely shut down and rejected that they never want to open

Simultaneous Orgasms Survey

A few weeks back, we were discussing simultaneous orgasms in our Facebook group and we got to talking about what’s “normal”.  Of course, when people ask about what is normal, they’re generally wondering if they’re weird or not.  But they also often want

How to be present during sex

Do you find you get distracted during sex? Have trouble staying in the moment? Here are 8 steps with tips to stay focused and in the moment in bed.

Sex, clothing and lighting survey results

A few months ago (back in August), I started running a survey asking about couple’s habits regarding sex, clothing, lighting and a few other things.  I’ve had some random questions lately from people asking if lingerie makes a difference, or if having sex

Black Friday deals to spice up your marriage!

Well, it’s Thanksgiving in the US … you know, because they’re trying to catch up with us Canadians who had Thanksgiving last month 🙂  Of course, with the American Thanksgiving comes Black Friday and some crazy deals. So, I thought I’d write a

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with.  I know I have in the past.  To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my wife drunk so

Why is initiating sex so difficult?

  If you’re married, you likely have some difficulty initiating sex.  Whether you’re a husband or wife, high drive or low drive, we have all have potential obstacles that can hold us back from showing our spouse we want to be physically intimate

Sometimes you need to stop talking

Sometimes you need to stop talking

I’m always going to be in favor of communication, but there are times when you need to stop talking and just start actually doing something, even in marriage where communication is a vital skill.  Today we’re going to look at some of these

The dishes can wait – How to make sex a priority

Do you ever find that you have so much to do in the evening, dishes, laundry, catching up on TV shows, etc., that by the time you get to bed, you’re too tired to have sex?  With 5 kids to clean up after,

8 ways to respond to your spouse sharing how they're feeling

8 ways to respond to your spouse sharing how they’re feeling (only one is good)

A little while ago, I wrote a post on how to have a conversation, because, well, we don’t get taught that in school, or growing up any longer.  At least, not if most people’s behaviour is any indication. Today I thought I’d write