Anonymous Questions – May 3, 2018

Anonymous Questions from our readers

In the last couple of weeks, we’ve received a few anonymous questions, and as I mentioned on our weekly update to the newsletter (subscribe here if you haven’t already), I’ll be answering them here for those who want to read and comment below.

How to make it easier to orgasm during sex

Hopefully it comes as no surprise to you that many women, about 40%, have never had an orgasm during intercourse (see our survey for more info).  As well, there is a study that says about 64% of women need additional clitoral stimulation to

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous Questions – April 19, 2018

We only received one anonymous question in the last few weeks, which I discussed in our mailing list.  I’m posting my response here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read it, but also so people can start

Should spouses avoid speaking about divorce?

  There are differing views within Christianity regarding divorce.  Some don’t really see a problem with it at all, that if you are unhappy, you should leave.  Others believe the very word should be stricken from our vocabulary.  They believe that divorce shouldn’t

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous Questions – March 29, 2018

As with last week, I’m posting my responses to this week’s anonymous questions here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read them, but also so people can start a discussion in the comments section below, if they

Simultaneous orgasm survey results

Simultaneous orgasms aren’t really talked about much.  Yet, many people expect them to occur frequently, if not all the time.  Some even think that if they can’t achieve it, then there is something wrong with the relationship. I think this is largely due

Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?

Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?

A couple of weeks ago, I received this question on our anonymous questions page: My husband wants to occasionally dress as a woman, including makeup, wig, etc.  He insists there is no sex or “turn on” with it.  Early in our marriage he

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous Questions – March 20, 2018

I’ve been answering these in email, but I’m moving it to the website for multiple reasons. For one, then people who are nervous about joining the newsletter can still read the questions and answers. Secondly, it’s just easier for me to write on

The worst time to spice up your sex life

The worst time to spice up your sex life

I’ve written a lot about different ways to spice up your sex life.  Those of you who have been reading a while know I tend to prefer conversations that spark understanding and long-term growth over short-term gimmicks.  However, I have been known to

Trapped gatekeepers - blame the guard, not he prisoner

Trapped gatekeepers – blame the guard, not the prisoner

In some marriages, the spouse with the lower sex drive simply decides their perspective is the most important and ends up being the gatekeeper of sex.  That is, they decide when sex is, what sort of sex there is, and generally it’s given