Survey data from over 1,000 married Christians reveals the same pattern across every sexual activity we measured: couples who talk openly about sex are dramatically more satisfied than those who don’t. If you’ve been sitting on something unsaid, the silence…
You know the cycle. Something happens, a tone of voice, a forgotten commitment, a moment that stings, and suddenly you’re both defending your corners instead of actually connecting. You talk at each other. You wait for your turn to explain…
Have you noticed how quickly disagreements turn into demonization these days? Whether it’s politics, religion, or even marriage, we’ve gotten stuck in a cycle of contempt—where the ‘other side’ isn’t just wrong, they’re evil. And it’s destroying relationships. I see…
Last week, I shared a list of ideas our Couple’s Night group had that helped build a resilient marriage. At the end of the call, we still had some time and started discussing fighting more effectively. Again, the group came…
There are differing views within Christianity regarding divorce. Some don’t really see a problem with it at all, that if you are unhappy, you should leave. Others believe the very word should be stricken from our vocabulary. They believe that…
“Should” is a dangerous word that gets used far too often. Now, I’m sure there are some appropriate times where it can be used, but often we don’t use it appropriately. Often we use “should” where it’s actually harmful to…
Sharing a sexual fantasy with your spouse can be daunting. I’ve received many emails from husbands and wives who have opened up to their spouse about something they want and get so completely shut down and rejected that they never…
I’m always going to be in favor of communication, but there are times when you need to stop talking and just start actually doing something, even in marriage where communication is a vital skill. Today we’re going to look at…
A little while ago, I wrote a post on how to have a conversation, because, well, we don’t get taught that in school, or growing up any longer. At least, not if most people’s behaviour is any indication. Today I…
Every once in a while, someone contacts me saying their spouse won’t talk to them about sex. Sometimes it’s part of a larger issue of not wanting to talk at all, but often every other topic is acceptable, it’s just…
Why do you initiate conversations in your marriage? Chances are they’re for the wrong reasons. I know mine were for years. Still are half the time to be honest. I’m not talking about the “Who is going to pick up…