Probably the number one piece of advice I hand out to people is “talk to your spouse about it”. It’s amazing how often that simple answer makes huge changes in marriage. But, I wanted to know how much of a…
Talking about sex survey results
Communication
Why do we keep having the same argument?
Do you ever feel like you just keep having the same argument, discussion or conflict over and over again? Perhaps it comes up every week, every month, or every year. It might just be something small and seemingly insignificant, or…
Never use absolute accusations
Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”. These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why:…
Talking about sex survey
I was going to write a post today about talking about sex with your spouse, but I want to get some data first. So, let’s see how many responses we can get in the next week. You can fill out…
How to survive a growth season in your marriage
If you’ve been married for a few years, you probably know that marriages have seasons. Some are fun, some are exciting. Some are amazing and intense. Some are a bit dull. When you’re just slogging through life, and some are…
How do I open up to my spouse sexually?
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I…
How to have a conversation
Do you know how to have a conversation? Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t. I mean, we grow up talking to people every day, but still, there are many adults who never really progress beyond the conversational skill of a…
Being more skilled at initiation
I think one of the biggest conflicts regarding sex with a lot of couples is simply how initiation and rejection are handled. From both sides. I think if we could improve that one back and forth conversation, a lot of…
What to say when your wife tells you about her day
It’s often difficult for men to listen to their wife talk about her day. For many men, it’s not something they naturally feel the need to do. Men tend to more easily compartmentalize their life. When they come home, they…
A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed
Ever had what you thought was the plan fall apart because your spouse didn’t know that was the plan? Or vice-versa? I have! And I don’t think I’m alone, especially after reading this comment yesterday: My wife and I are…
Is your marriage prepared to survive the holidays?
Do you have a plan to survive the holidays? Between Christmas and New Year’s, there is this perfect storm for couples that many stumble into every year. It only comes up once a year, so often we’re caught unprepared and…