If you’ve been married for a few years, you probably know that marriages have seasons. Some are fun, some are exciting. Some are amazing and intense. Some are a bit dull. When you’re just slogging through life, and some are a bit more oppressive than
Category Archives: Communication
How do I open up to my spouse sexually?
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse
How to have a conversation
Do you know how to have a conversation? Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t. I mean, we grow up talking to people every day, but still, there are many adults who never really progress beyond the conversational skill of a 3-year-old. Sure, their vocabulary increases
Being more skilled at initiation
I think one of the biggest conflicts regarding sex with a lot of couples is simply how initiation and rejection are handled. From both sides. I think if we could improve that one back and forth conversation, a lot of marriages would be a substantial
What to say when your wife tells you about her day
It’s often difficult for men to listen to their wife talk about her day. For many men, it’s not something they naturally feel the need to do. Men tend to more easily compartmentalize their life. When they come home, they want a chance to switch
A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed
Ever had what you thought was the plan fall apart because your spouse didn’t know that was the plan? Or vice-versa? I have! And I don’t think I’m alone, especially after reading this comment yesterday: My wife and I are on different planets as far
Is your marriage prepared to survive the holidays?
Do you have a plan to survive the holidays? Between Christmas and New Year’s, there is this perfect storm for couples that many stumble into every year. It only comes up once a year, so often we’re caught unprepared and then blindsided by it. Then,
How can I encourage my spouse to do something new sexually?
I regularly have someone ask me how they can encourage their spouse to do something new sexually. For example, here’s a question from our Have A Question page: How can a husband encourage his wife to deep throat and swallow his semen without seaming demanding or better
How to respond to an apology
I wrote a few posts about apologizing lately and realized it didn’t yet write one about how to respond to an apology. So, how do you answer someone who said they’re sorry?
What do you do if you suspect your spouse of secretly masturbating?
This week I got an email from one of my regular readers. Here’s the basic backstory: I found your blog in spring of 2014 when I was 35 weeks pregnant with my third daughter and I couldn’t figure out why I felt so hurt catching
I’m sorry isn’t good enough
If you have a healthy marriage, then you’ll end up saying “I’m sorry” many times. The problem is that saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t cut it. If you want to see extra growth in your marriage, you’re going to have to take it to the next level.