My name is Jay, my wife is Christina, and when we got married in 2001, just after our twentieth birthdays, we were not prepared. Not really.
We did the usual pre-marital counseling at church, but once we were actually married we found out it is not nearly as simple as people make it sound. We spent the next seven years mostly just trying to stay civil with each other, until we finally admitted we had to fix things before we wrecked the whole marriage. About a year after that, I started a blog, back then called SexWithinMarriage.com.
“One of our biggest struggles was sex. We were clinically ‘sexless’ for years, and there was almost no good help for Christians.”
The little advice we could find was either not Christian at all, or Christian and simply bad. So I set out to gather up all the genuinely good, genuinely Christian help I could find. Along the way I started writing my own, got trained as a Christian life and marriage coach, and we had five kids.
In September 2016 we rebranded from Sex Within Marriage to Uncovering Intimacy, because I kept writing about more than sex. Marriage is holistic; you cannot write honestly about the bedroom for long without the rest of the relationship coming with it. The new name matched what this had really become, building intimacy across a whole marriage.
Today this is a reader- and listener-supported ministry: a blog of 662 articles, a long-running podcast, a shop of resources, a coaching practice, and more than twenty original surveys of married Christians, plus webinars and other events. All of it aimed at one thing, helping Christian couples build marriages that are honest, connected, and genuinely joyful, in the bedroom too.
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