Save Your Marriage – Or Bring It Back To Life
Divorce is costly. Settling for a lifeless marriage is costly too. Coaching offers a faster path to renewal and creates a future you’ll both want to live in – delivering lasting value.
Christian marriage coaching for couples who want real change.
The Two Roads Many Couples Face
Do either of these sound like your marriage?
The Fighting Road
You and your spouse fight often. Maybe it’s shouting matches, maybe it’s cold silences, but either way you feel stuck in the same arguments that never seem to end. You try to explain your side, they try to explain theirs, but nothing gets resolved and the walls between you just get taller. Even small disagreements spiral into bigger battles, and afterwards you’re left feeling drained, misunderstood, and more distant than ever.
Sometimes, “divorce” has even been mentioned – whether in anger or fear. And while that word might hang in the air, what you really want isn’t to end things. You want the fighting to stop. You want to feel safe with each other again, to be able to talk without it turning into a war, to trust that you’re on the same team instead of opposing sides. Deep down, you long for a marriage where conflict doesn’t destroy connection but actually leads to deeper understanding and closeness.
The Fading Road
You don’t really fight, but the spark has slipped away. You share the same house, maybe even raise kids together, but it feels more like you’re running a household than sharing a marriage. Conversations revolve around schedules, bills, and logistics. The laughter is rare, the affection is minimal, and intimacy feels like a memory from another lifetime.
On the outside, everything looks fine – you’re not fighting, you’re still together – but on the inside, you feel lonely. You wonder if this is all marriage will ever be: quiet co-existence without real connection. Sometimes you look at other couples and ache, remembering what it felt like to be in love, to feel wanted, to feel alive together. What you long for is a marriage that feels passionate and playful again, where you don’t just survive side by side but thrive as partners and lovers.
If you see yourself in either of these roads, you’re not alone – and it doesn’t have to stay this way. We’ve helped many couples rebuild their connection, reignite intimacy, and discover joy again. There is hope, and it starts with taking the first step.
The Real Cost Of Doing Nothing
Divorce in the U.S. costs $15,000 – $30,0000 on average – not counting years of stress, broken trust, baggage brought into the next marriage, the effect on your children (if you have them), friends, church and community.
Or, you could continue in a loveless, “roommate” marriage, staying together for the kids, to keep up appearances, or just to avoid the costly separation. This costs in other ways – loneliness, loss of intimacy, and possibly kids growing up without seeing what love should look like.
The investment in Coaching is a fraction of that, and helps you build the marriage you always wanted – while there’s still time.
Instead of paying lawyers or living like strangers, you can invest in your marriage and still have money left over for a vacation to celebrate the renewed energy and love in your relationship.
Why Couples Choose Coaching
Clarity
Finally see what’s really going on beneath the surface. We’ll uncover the hidden patterns, fears, and habits that keep you stuck, so you can understand not just what you’re fighting about, but why it keeps happening.
Action
No more vague advice like “just communicate better.” Every session ends with clear, practical steps designed for your marriage, so you can start building change the very same day.
Support
You don’t have to walk this road alone. I’ll be in your corner, guiding you and encouraging you – not shaming you or telling you to simply “try harder.” Real support means having someone who believes in your marriage as much as you do.
Results
Imagine trust rebuilt, conversations that don’t explode, and intimacy that feels exciting again. Coaching isn’t just about solving problems – it’s about creating a marriage that’s stronger, deeper, and more joyful than you’ve ever had before.
Who This Is For
Coaching is for couples who want peace, passion, and connection again—and are willing to work for it.
- Couples tired of constant fights and ready for peace.
- Couples who feel bored, disconnected, or like roommates.
- Anyone who wants to rebuild trust, intimacy, and joy.
- Husbands or wives willing to take action – even if their spouse isn’t ready yet.
- Couples who want to break free from repeating the same arguments.
- Those who feel like the spark is gone and wonder if love can come back.
- Anyone afraid of drifting so far apart that “divorce” feels like the only option.
- Couples of faith who want a Christ-centered marriage that actually thrives.
- People who don’t just want to avoid divorce, but want a marriage worth celebrating.
The truth is, no marriage is too far gone for change. With the right guidance, couples who once felt hopeless have found new trust, fresh intimacy, and a renewed sense of purpose together. Imagine looking back a year from now and realizing this was the turning point. Coaching isn’t just about avoiding pain – it’s about reclaiming joy, love, and a future you’re excited to share. Every step you take is a step toward hope.
How much is coaching, and how long is it?
One of the hardest parts about starting coaching is trying to decide how long you’ll need it.
Three months? Six? A year? The truth is – you don’t know yet. And you shouldn’t have to guess.
That’s why I’ve simplified things.
You can start with Weekly Coaching for $100 per week, billed weekly, and cancel anytime.
No big upfront cost. No package to commit to. Just steady, practical help every week until you feel your marriage is in a good place.
And to make it even more rewarding to stay consistent, your rate drops automatically by $5 every six weeks, down to a minimum of $75 per week.
That means the longer you stay, the more affordable it gets – because lasting change takes time, and I want to make that journey sustainable. Also, to be honest, the longer we go, the easier it gets, we may not even need the full hour later on in the process.
Most couples begin to see real breakthroughs within 3 – 6 months, but you can continue for as long as you’re growing and seeing value, or end it sooner if you feel you’re in a good place sooner.
Start where you are. Stay as long as it helps. Leave when you’re ready.
While on a coaching plan, you also get access to our private forum and gain a community who are all there to help support your marriage while they work on their own as well.
Real Stories, Real Results
These couples once felt stuck, hopeless, even ready to give up. But with coaching, they discovered that healing and joy were still possible. Their stories prove there is always hope.
The great thing about Jay is that
- He’s great at what he does and has a lot of experience. He’s a good and observant listener and can quickly find an accurate remedy with you. We had tried local therapy and coaching before, which helped, but didn’t feel sufficient. With Jay, we quickly improved to a stable, happy state that we had struggled to reach.
- He provides an experienced and thorough Christian perspective that marriage therapists/coaches in your area might lack.
- He’s available over video calls and e-mail. Forget the hassle of travel planning and who’s going to take care of the kids.
- My wife, who doesn’t speak English that often, was comfortable that she’d be heard and understood.
We’re grateful that Jay and this ministry is around!
– Karl
My wife and I found Jay Dee’s podcast in 2019. We thought we had a solid marriage until the cracks were revealed by my use of pornography and mood swings that were made worse working as a nurse in a pandemic. After a few years of struggling we decided to book an appointment with JD. He was a great resource in talking us through traumas and helping us understand ourselves and each other. We’ve made major changes in our relationship that have only helped to improve our communication, intimacy and my pornography compulsion. JD was a life raft for our floundering ship. We had been married for 12 years with 2 young children at the time and had no idea how strained our marriage had actually gotten. My wife and I highly recommend JD and his Christian-centered coaching services. If we were to tell our younger selves one word of advise, it would be to invest in coaching early when the thought first comes to mind. It might seem like a high cost but it has an even higher yield of return. Thanks Jay Dee for your invaluable ministry!
– Dan
My wife and I did not talk about sex for 25 years. We each thought the other did not want to engage sexually when we both did. For some reason I was so fearful to talk to my wife about sex. I guess I thought the situation could get worse. We had not had sex for decades, so I don’t know how it could get any worse, but that was my thinking at the time. I was encouraged by Jay to tell my wife that I missed having sex with her. It was like a dam broke. My wife wanted sex too, but thought I did not. Now we engage sexually almost every day, and we can talk about anything, especially sex.
Thank you Jay Dee. I can’t thank you enough for your help in this area of our lives.
Mike, age 71
I can honestly say I learnt more from one coaching session than in numerous sex therapy sessions.
– Stephen
Don’t Settle For Divorce – Or A Lifeless Marriage
You don’t have to fight forever. You don’t have to settle for dull and distant.
Book your free discovery call. Share what’s really going on, learn how coaching works, and walk away with one clear step – even if you don’t book again.
No matter how broken or distant things feel today, or how many therapists and counselors you’ve seen, there is always a way forward. Hope is real, and your marriage can thrive again.