Category Archives: Sex

How to make it easier to orgasm during sex

Hopefully it comes as no surprise to you that many women, about 40%, have never had an orgasm during intercourse (see our survey for more info).  As well, there is a study that says about 64% of women need additional clitoral stimulation to

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous Questions – April 19, 2018

We only received one anonymous question in the last few weeks, which I discussed in our mailing list.  I’m posting my response here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read it, but also so people can start

Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?

Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?

A couple of weeks ago, I received this question on our anonymous questions page: My husband wants to occasionally dress as a woman, including makeup, wig, etc.  He insists there is no sex or “turn on” with it.  Early in our marriage he

The worst time to spice up your sex life

The worst time to spice up your sex life

I’ve written a lot about different ways to spice up your sex life.  Those of you who have been reading a while know I tend to prefer conversations that spark understanding and long-term growth over short-term gimmicks.  However, I have been known to

Trapped gatekeepers - blame the guard, not he prisoner

Trapped gatekeepers – blame the guard, not the prisoner

In some marriages, the spouse with the lower sex drive simply decides their perspective is the most important and ends up being the gatekeeper of sex.  That is, they decide when sex is, what sort of sex there is, and generally it’s given

Is it okay to engage in pegging in a marriage?

Is it okay to engage in pegging in a marriage

Those of you who get our weekly newsletters know that I’ve been dragging my feet while writing this for the last week.  Those in our private Facebook group know it’s been even longer – and my wife knows it’s been quite a long

The best way to discuss sexual fantasies

The best way to discuss sexual fantasies

Sharing a sexual fantasy with your spouse can be daunting.  I’ve received many emails from husbands and wives who have opened up to their spouse about something they want and get so completely shut down and rejected that they never want to open

How to be present during sex

Do you find you get distracted during sex? Have trouble staying in the moment? Here are 8 steps with tips to stay focused and in the moment in bed.

Black Friday deals to spice up your marriage!

Well, it’s Thanksgiving in the US … you know, because they’re trying to catch up with us Canadians who had Thanksgiving last month 🙂  Of course, with the American Thanksgiving comes Black Friday and some crazy deals. So, I thought I’d write a

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with.  I know I have in the past.  To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my wife drunk so

Why is initiating sex so difficult?

  If you’re married, you likely have some difficulty initiating sex.  Whether you’re a husband or wife, high drive or low drive, we have all have potential obstacles that can hold us back from showing our spouse we want to be physically intimate