Category Archives: Sex

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with.  I know I have in the past.  To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my wife drunk so

Why is initiating sex so difficult?

  If you’re married, you likely have some difficulty initiating sex.  Whether you’re a husband or wife, high drive or low drive, we have all have potential obstacles that can hold us back from showing our spouse we want to be physically intimate

The dishes can wait – How to make sex a priority

Do you ever find that you have so much to do in the evening, dishes, laundry, catching up on TV shows, etc., that by the time you get to bed, you’re too tired to have sex?  With 5 kids to clean up after,

Why it's important to talk about sex

Why it’s important to talk about sex

Every once in a while, someone contacts me saying their spouse won’t talk to them about sex.  Sometimes it’s part of a larger issue of not wanting to talk at all, but often every other topic is acceptable, it’s just sex that isn’t. 

A Day of Sex

A day of sex

We tried something recently that I thought I’d share, because it might interest some of you.  Warning: If you’re currently in a marriage where your spouse is actively gate-keeping or refusing sex, don’t read this.  It will just irritate you. I was listening

How do you do kegel exercises?

How do you do kegel exercises?

My regular readers should know by now that we’re doing a 30-day kegel exercise challenge, and today is day 1!  Now, if you want to participate in the group, you should join it on Facebook here. I thought I’d write a quick post

Who wants to join a 30 day kegel exercise challenge?

Who wants to join a 30 day kegel exercise challenge?

Do you know what kegel exercises are?  Alright, if you do, you can skip the next paragraph.  If not, listen up. Your kegel muscles are basically your pelvic floor muscles.  They’re heavily involved in anything bathroom or bedroom related (waste expulsion, orgasm, etc.). 

The one thing that will make you better in bed

The one thing that will make you better in bed

Many spouses want to learn to be a better lover.  You may think it takes knowledge about techniques, tricks and hidden tips about sex, or that it takes a perfect body, able to last hours of pleasurable motion, but the truth is that

What can you do if your wife is too ticklish for oral sex?

What can you do if your wife is too ticklish for oral sex?

You know what I love about being a Christian marriage educator?  Helping people by answering questions they don’t feel they can ask anywhere else.  Giving them a safe place to ask it and doing my best to make them feel like they’re not

What do people do about cleanup after sex?

What do people do about cleanup after sex?

Sex can often by a bit of a messy activity.  Between bodily fluids and lube, there’s generally a lot of liquids to deal with after you’re done.  And unfortunately, no one really talks about it, so you don’t really know what to expect,

Is it okay to write erotica for my spouse?

Is it okay to write erotica for my spouse?

We hear all the time from Christian bloggers about the dangers of reading erotica.  A quick search found no less than a dozen posts on the topic.  However, I couldn’t find a single one (besides my own) on writing erotica from a Christian