Does the source of an idea determine whether or not it’s good? Let’s say you had a prior porn addiction and you saw something you want to try with your spouse, does that make it now sinful? Here’s a question I received a while ago that I’m going to address today.
I’ve been telling husbands for years that they should learn how to give a good sensual massage. It’s one of my go-to recommendations for helping couples when it comes to sexual intimacy. The couples who have tried it all agree – it can transform a marriage to gain the skill of giving good massages. Both husbands and wives benefit from taking a couples massage course, though the immediate draw might be different.
In this post, I’m going to tell you a bit about why you should take a couples massage course. I’ll also let you know my favourite couples massage course out there.
Why you don’t have that “I want to rip your clothes off” feeling anymore. In this post/podcast episode, I tackle the question of what causes that feeling, and the neuro-chemicals involved.
For the last month or so, we’ve had a survey open about how you prefer to have your spouse initiate sex. If you never got a chance, you can fill it out here. I do sometimes delve into old surveys to answer new questions, so
The difference in sexual desire between a husband and a wife is one of those universal conflicts. I think just about every marriage deals with it at some point. If yours hasn’t yet – well congratulations newlyweds! Just because it’s a conflict though doesn’t mean
Anyone else feel like Father’s Day sort of sneaked up on them? I mean, Mother’s Day seems to have a lot of ads, I feel like there was lots of warning. But Father’s Day? I mean, I get flyers to the hardware store to buy power
What does it mean to feel “connected” during sex. For many spouses, when their husband or wife says “I don’t feel connected during sex”, they get quite confused. They’re thinking “I am literally inside of you/you are literally inside of me, how can we be MORE connected?!”
But of course, they’re not talking about a physical connection, but rather an emotional, mental or spiritual connection.
A reader asks:
I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read your post a while ago where you mentioned that humiliation isn’t good for your partner in the long term. Would you consider this to be humiliation? What about the trend to call men “daddy” in bed?
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what sort of sex drive you have, because it can change. Focus more on your spouse, and less on fitting them into a box. That way, if things change, you can adjust to the changes, rather that be stuck on a model that doesn’t match your dynamic anymore.
Ever feel like having a high sex drive is a burden? Have you wondered why God made you this way? Here are some of the reasons I think having spontaneous desire is a blessing.
Responsive desire isn’t an abnormality, disability or curse. It’s a blessing. Once you learn to work with it, it can actually lead to an amazing sex life.