Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season. So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7. Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got…
SWM 117 – Why do I want sex when I’m sick?
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SWM 114 – Understanding and Navigating Sexual Obligations in a Christian Marriage
I had a wife ask, “Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely?” This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was…
SWM 092 – How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm
A reader asked: If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn’t…
SWM 088 – My Vasectomy Experience
A reader asked: Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old…. any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research? Is there a certain “technique” we should look into (stitches vs something else I read about briefly?) dare I ask,…
SWM 086 – Sex with a well endowed husband
Today we’re going to answer a question about having sex with a well-endowed husband. This question came in a while ago, and since I hadn’t answered it before and I felt there was a lot of information to share, I…
SWM 083 – What is “feeling naughty”?
Hi Jay, Just a general question, what is the feeling of “feeling naughty”? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply “different” as “naughty” as maybe we don’t have another reference…
Is a sexual activity wrong if it was learned from a sinful source?
Does the source of an idea determine whether or not it’s good? Let’s say you had a prior porn addiction and you saw something you want to try with your spouse, does that make it now sinful? Here’s a question…
Why you should take couples massage classes
I’ve been telling husbands for years that they should learn how to give a good sensual massage. It’s one of my go-to recommendations for helping couples when it comes to sexual intimacy. The couples who have tried it all agree…
SWM 067 – Infatuation, New Relationship Energy, and Love
Why you don’t have that “I want to rip your clothes off” feeling anymore. In this post/podcast episode, I tackle the question of what causes that feeling, and the neuro-chemicals involved.
What’s the best way to initiate sex?
For the last month or so, we’ve had a survey open about how you prefer to have your spouse initiate sex. If you never got a chance, you can fill it out here. I do sometimes delve into old surveys…
What do couples do when one wants sex and the other doesn’t?
The difference in sexual desire between a husband and a wife is one of those universal conflicts. I think just about every marriage deals with it at some point. If yours hasn’t yet – well congratulations newlyweds! Just because it’s…