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Topics: lust, sin
Is it a sin to lust after your wife?Answered In Is it a sin to lust after your wife?
Topics: oral, Survey
Is it common to want to get your testicles sucked? My wife and I have been married for around 4 years and when she gives me a blowjob she often times doesn't pay much attention to my balls. I would love for her to either suck on them or grab them a little bit, is that a pretty typical thing for men to want or for a husband to even ask their wife for?
Answered In Do men like having their balls played with?
How can I get my wife to masturbate for me? I would love to see her pleasuring herself. She lets me masturbate (and even helps me) when she's not in the mood but I am. But she is not comfortable doing it to herself.
Answered In Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or single
I love giving my husband oral, but I find his semen to be very bitter. It's actually very difficult to not gag at the taste. I thought I was going to throw up once.
So I guess my question is; it's there a way to make him taste better? Or will i eventually get used to it?Answered In How can I make him taste better?
Im a happily married man who dearly loves his wife.
I used to be addicted to pornography, chats, etc. but my wife forgave me and now there is nothing of such nature in our relationship.
My question is regarding one thing that I do not fully know what to think of it.
I read your post on sensuality and how the Bible encourages it and it has been my experience that when we pursue sensuality (sexual flirtation, intimate touching, etc.) we are very happy.
My question is this:
I often have the urge to put down my sexual desire for my wife onto paper by writing erotic stories of what we have experienced before and also what just comes through fantasy. Several times now I have read one of them to my wife, or let her read one herself, and this led to some of the most mindblowing sex we ever had.
Yet sometimes I still have a bad conscience in regard to this, maybe because I had read erotic stories before coming clean with my wife about my sexual sins.
How much is too much? Is it ok to write such stories if they only feature us and contain only married sexuality?
If it is, why do I have a bad feeling about it sometimes?Answered In Is it okay to write erotica for my spouse?
Topics: masturbation, toys
Hi JD, do you think it's okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasm next to hubby after he has fallen asleep after sex? He does give me orgasms during sex a lot of the time. Sometimes he's finished and I'm content not to have an O so I will just go to sleep. But sometimes I'm all worked up and he's finished, but I want to O too! I'm not sure if I should suck it up and wait until next time or if I should wake hubby enough to ask if it's okay? Or just do it! I'm not sure if this is solo sex (not a good idea) or if I'm sharing it with him. I feel like I'm sharing with him, but he's fallen asleep so doesn't know! Should I tell him in the morning? I have told hubby before that I would find it really hot to wake up to him masturbating next to me in bed, but that he should make sure to wake me so that I can enjoy him doing it. I don't want him masterbating alone.Answered In Is it okay to masturbate next to my spouse if they’re asleep?
This is more a question of curiosity. What do you think about breath play? Science, appropriateness etc...Answered In Anonymous Question: What do you think about breath play (erotic asphyxiation)?
Topics: sex drives, stress
Jay, I just read your last post "Can my wife get addicted to sex toys?" and is spot on in my opinion. In your post you mentioned:
"...(which tends to affect your libido and arousal), some stress from so many kids (which produces cortisol which inhibits dopamine and nitric oxide, which is necessary for arousal), and some lack of sleep, which is also bad for libido and arousal."
My wife and I have gone through seasons where our sex drives have gone up and down because of factors like stress and lack of sleep. I'd be VERY interested in the science behind how stress and other life events affect libido and what we can do to overcome them or minimize their effects. I'm sure many young couples with children would benefit from that knowledge.
Thanks for all you do.Answered In 5 ways to stop stress from killing your sex life
We are a mature white couple our kids out on there own now.
my wife has had a fantasy for 35 yrs of our marriage to be gang banged by 3-5 black guys with very big cocks.
We love each other very much & now I feel that we could let this happen as I had many sexual relationships before her & I've been totally faithful to her; she hasn't been with another man at all.
Is it wrong for us to do this? Even if I'm party to it?Answered In Is it still adultery if you have permission?
Can we swap wives for sex (intercourse) in a marriage?
We are told that there is a website on Christian "swinging" (wife swapping).
How Christian is this in a Christian marriage?
Is this allowed in a Christian environment?Answered In Can Christian couples swing?
Hi. Is it okay for a Christian couple to 'expand' their sexual circle? For the past several years, I have been wanting to see my wife 'taken' by another man or men. I told her about this, and bless her, she listened and didn't condemn me or storm out of our bedroom. Now, it seems that my wife is liking this idea. She is finally opening up to her sexuality and we would love to take our 'desire' to the next level. What are your thoughts? Answered In Is it still adultery if you have permission?
Are threesomes in marriage a sinAnswered In Can Christians have threesomes?
Topics: Adultery, toys
What about a sex surrogate in a marriage where I have ed
Answered In Is it still adultery if you have permission?
So my husband is away on business for the next month (this is the first time we'll be apart) and I wanted to know if playing with my vibrator without him is wrong?
Answered In How do we deal with separation due to work?
it is hard for me to orgasm during sex with my husband so I masturbate and think of him is this wrong.Answered In If masturbation is sinful, what do you do if you don’t orgasm during sex?
Is it a sin to lust after your wife. The Bible says to not covet your neighbor's wife. But is it wrong to covet your own wife? To look longingly at her thighs or ass etc...
KevinAnswered In Is it a sin to lust after your wife?
Lust according to God is a sin. What about "lusting" after your wife? I thought it would be hot my wife to dress seductively and do a little "dance" for me. She refused saying that it just causes me to lust after her and lust is sinful. Same thing if I had "pornographic" images of my wife, or any other material or behavior that inappropriately fuels sexual desire for my wife. What do you say?Answered In Is it a sin to lust after your wife?
I once had a conversation with my W that "sensual" and "sensuality" are vices, sins. I had no argument to counter because countless Bible verses suggest this. That said, is there a place for "sensuality" in Marriage? Or is that "of the flesh" sex that is NOT to be conducted in a Christian marriage? I think I know your position, but I'm curious how to reconcile that the Bible appears to teach "sensuality" is sinful.Answered In Is sensuality in Christian marriage a sin?
Can a couple masturbate on the phone if one of them travels?Answered In How do we deal with separation due to work?
Is it unreasonable for me (husband) to expect my wife to continue to remove pubic hair, like she did when we were dating? We've been married 11 years (second for both of us), and she's indicated that she thinks that shaving or waxing is "too porno" for her, and refuses to entertain the idea. She claims that NO ONE does that every week, month or more than once or twice a year... As I write this I'm starting to see a pattern in our overall love making, Oral is fast becoming a thing of the past; and we're settling into a Once a week Sunday night routine...Answered In Do Christians shave their pubic hair?
how many women willingly (or under some compulsion) remove pubic hair; or (like my wife) refuse to even though their husbands request it...? Is this request way out of line for 'Christian' couples, or more normal than my wife would have me believe...?Answered In Do Christians shave their pubic hair?
Have you ever done a post regarding shaving the entire genital areas (men and women)?Answered In Do Christians shave their pubic hair?
How much do other Christian women shave or trim their pubic hair?
Answered In Do Christians shave their pubic hair?
Topics: talking dirty
Is it okay to talk dirty to your spouse or have them talk dirty to you, very explicit use of language? I don't swear but I enjoy this kind of talk with my other half.
Answered In Introduction to Talking Dirty
Should couples share same bank accounts? Is right or a spouse to hide bonuses and financial packages.
Answered In SWM028 – Answering questions about oral sex before marriage, joint bank accounts, toys, dirty talking and grooming
Is oral sex before marriage bad?
Answered In Is oral sex before marriage wrong?
So, if bondage is ok with a husband and wife, are the use of toys ok too, such as vibrators?Answered In Are sex toys allowed in a Christian marriage?
Is adult lactation normal & OK, bearing in mind "let her breasts satisfy you at all times"? I hope so because I love sucking - it gives me a great sense of wellbeing and enjoyment! Answered In Adult Nursing Relationships