You know the cycle. Something happens, a tone of voice, a forgotten commitment, a moment that stings, and suddenly you’re both defending your corners instead of actually connecting. You talk at each other. You wait for your turn to explain…
Often the fights we have as couples aren’t about what we think they are. Because while we think we’re fighting about respect, sex, tone, in-laws, money, kids or anything else under the sun, often the real issue is far less…
The difference in sexual desire between a husband and a wife is one of those universal conflicts. I think just about every marriage deals with it at some point. If yours hasn’t yet – well congratulations newlyweds! Just because it’s…
Does a disagreement always mean an argument? Does resolving it always mean compromise or someone changing their opinion? I’ve had this question come up a few times this week from multiple sources. Many people believe that a difference in opinion…
My spouse is in a unique position to hurt me more deeply and more often than anyone else, simply by being in an intimate (not just physically) relationship with me. She knows how to push my buttons better and harder…
Most couples face a conflict in terms of mismatched sex drives. The majority in fact, my marriage included. This leads some people to believe that their sex drive, or the sex drive of their spouse, is the issue. But it’s…
Do you ever feel like you just keep having the same argument, discussion or conflict over and over again? Perhaps it comes up every week, every month, or every year. It might just be something small and seemingly insignificant, or…
Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”. These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why:…
I wrote a few posts about apologizing lately and realized it didn’t yet write one about how to respond to an apology. So, how do you answer someone who said they’re sorry?
This week I got an email from one of my regular readers. Here’s the basic backstory: I found your blog in spring of 2014 when I was 35 weeks pregnant with my third daughter and I couldn’t figure out why…
If you have a healthy marriage, then you’ll end up saying “I’m sorry” many times. The problem is that saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t cut it. If you want to see extra growth in your marriage, you’re going to have to take…