In July and August we surveyed 1,058 married Christians on manual sex, oral sex, mutual masturbation, and solo masturbation. This is the full breakdown: who does what, how often, what couples actually use, where the silence is loudest, and what…
Nearly a year ago someone suggested I redo my 2014 survey on mutual masturbation. I did, and I expanded it considerably. What I got back from 1,043 married Christians was more interesting than I expected. Some of it confirmed what…
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Today we’re continuing with our Sex as Worship series, and in this post, we’re going to be talking about masturbation, which is a highly contested argument in Christianity. Is it okay, is it sinful, it is helpful or harmful? And…
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Topics include: Where does the energy come from? Mutual masturbation Sharing fantasies and machines Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz Why do married men masturbate? How do you meet other people? Can I use sex…
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Topics include: Husband is in jail Husband masturbates all the time Husband won’t quit porn Should Christians avoid Tantric Sex? Premature Ejaculation Bondage Resources Jock Itch Wife is not interested in sex Husband not interested in sex with wife Being…
Well, here we are for another round of anonymous questions. As mentioned in the weekly update (subscribe here if you didn’t get it), I’ll be answering them here for those who want to read and comment below. If you’d rather…
We only received one anonymous question in the last few weeks, which I discussed in our mailing list. I’m posting my response here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read it, but also so…
Today we have a question from a reader asking about using a vibrator in bed next to her husband after sex (when he’s fallen asleep): Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasm…
I get a lot of comments and questions from people asking “How do I stop sinful behaviour?” and it’s a difficult question to answer. Whether you’re trying to quit porn, yelling at your kids, or overeating, it’s really the same…
How do you answer the question of whether or not it’s okay for widows to masturbate? Well, I got asked this very question back in August and I’ll admit, I’ve been hesitant to answer it. Here’s the comment from our…
This week I got an email from one of my regular readers. Here’s the basic backstory: I found your blog in spring of 2014 when I was 35 weeks pregnant with my third daughter and I couldn’t figure out why…