Is masturbation for medical reasons okay?

Jay Dee

Is masturbation for medical reasons okay?

Aug 23, 2016

I received this question a couple of days ago through our anonymous Have A Question page and wanted to tackle it quickly as it seemed time sensitive. In the case of medical necessary, is masturbation and pornography okay? Backstory: We’re struggling with infertility.

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Anonymous QuestionI received this question a couple of days ago through our anonymous Have A Question page and wanted to tackle it quickly as it seemed time sensitive.

In the case of medical necessary, is masturbation and pornography okay?
Backstory: We’re struggling with infertility. I am a recovering porn/masturbation addict. I’m not perfect but I’m trying. When I told my husband about looking at porn he was upset (as he should be). He’s the low drive spouse but he hasn’t looked at porn since we’ve been married.
Now, he’s having to go for a semen analysis. We know that this will include masturbating and probably looking at porn in order to get it done.
Is this an okay use of porn and masturbation or is there something else that should be done? We’ve talked about it and I’m okay with it because I know it needs to be done (and would be a hypocrite if I was upset about it) but my husband isn’t the biggest fan of the idea.

Thanks.

So, firstly, I’m sorry to hear you are struggling with infertility.  I have a close friend who has the same struggle, and I see only in part how hard it is on him and his wife.

The TV stereotype of semen analysis is to go into a room and they have magazines or porn going, and then a short time later, the man comes out with a cup full of semen.  However, it doesn’t need to happen that way.  Yes “there is something else that should be done”, at least in my opinion.

You can get a semen sample together, at home

I’ve had to have semen analysis done (or a count rather) after my vasectomy to ensure that it was successful.  There was no small room.  There were no porn magazines.  When I went to the clinic, they handed me a bag with a cup in it and said to bring it back with some pretty specific instructions.  Now, I can’t recall exactly what they were, but something along the lines of:

  • You can’t orgasm within a certain period of time (a day or three I think) before giving a sample
  • You should not contaminate the sample should with either saliva or vaginal lubrication
  • You have to bring the sample within a few hours of ejaculation

Now, you can still follow those rules and involve your spouse.  In our case, my wife managed to sneak upstairs for a mutual masturbation quickie and we managed to get a sample while all the kids were watching TV downstairs.   This fit all their requirements.  Plus, we managed to make what could have a been a sterile, disconnected activity and turn getting a semen sample into something that was intimate.  It also helped give the feeling that this wasn’t a task I had to accomplish, but rather something we were doing together.

So, no, it doesn’t need to involve porn and solo masturbation.  Let’s not take something as beautiful as you wanting to start a family and go through something dark and shameful like using porn and solo masturbation to get there.  If you can’t conceive a child through a natural conception, at least you can be together at this stage as you work towards your goal.

Those are my thoughts.  Anyone else?

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12 thoughts on “Is masturbation for medical reasons okay?”

  1. Mike says:

    I have never been asked by my doctor to give a semen sample, but your procedure would be excellent. I have always feared having to give a semen sample. It is bad enough giving a urine sample in the doctors office with the nurses and patients all looking on as I exit the rest room. It would be even more embarrassing to exit with a jar of white fluid in my hand,

  2. Stephen says:

    Not even a question for me, if either party needs relief and that’s the option? No problem.
    But that’s my opinion.

  3. Butterflywings says:

    Totally agree with Jay. The other option is, if they insist it be done on site, there is nothing wrong with you going and giving your husband “a hand” metaphorically, and literally if necessary. 😉

  4. JAMES WITTER says:

    I am not against masturbation but I do feel that the wife should be the one to help and not pictures and tv….
    She could be giving him a hand Literally and or by teasing him with her body

  5. libl says:

    If the semen is needed for viable sperm to inseminate eggs, then doing it at home and bringing the vial in later might not be an option. If it MUST be done at the clinic, go ahead and ask about having the porn removed from the room and allowing the wife in there. If the wife is uncomfortable with that or it isn’t allowed, perhaps she could provide some pictures or videos of herself for him. (Benefits of smart phones these days).

    1. Jay Dee says:

      In this case she said analysis, but yeah, collection would be a bit more restrictive on the timeline most likely. Good alternative!

  6. Anonymous says:

    I am the original questioner. It is just a sperm analysis but it is done the same was as an iui prep at the place we are having it done. It has to be done there and I am having other tests at the same time so I can not “give him a hand”. Thanks for the suggestions of recording things

  7. Anonymous says:

    Don’t be ridiculous, you don’t need porn to give a semen specimen. As long as you’re not looking at porn or fantasizing about another women when you don’t, it’s no big deal. Stop making a sin out of something that the Bible doesn’t speak against!

    1. Jay Dee says:

      “Jesus, you never said I couldn’t have sex with an android!”

  8. Will says:

    My doctor wanted to see if something happened to my testicles thinking that they had been damaged during a virus. My wife and I have had 11 children together and have been together for so long, I wasn’t sure I could easily masturbate without my her present at the hospital. So, the hour before I went into the hospital to give the sample, we had great sex, intercourse without ejaculating. And also being that I never used pornography, all I needed was a build up with my wife that enabled me to give plenty of sample.

  9. John says:

    I had to give a couple different samples after my vasectomy, after a certain number of weeks, and then a couple weeks after that. They gave me a couple sample cups to collect at home. Mike (Aug 23) says he would be embarrassed with a cup with white fluid in it? The second time I turned in my sample, the girl at the counter took it and said “oh, it’s still warm”. Not much I could say at that point. Luckily the last time I needed to give the sample. It is good to keep a sense of humor at times. Even though at home, it was a solo collection effort. My wife laughed at the story, so that was good.

    1. Jay Dee says:

      That’s too bad. My wife offered to help get the sample.

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