Category Archives: Sexual Sin & Temptation

Are you sabotaging your sex life like I do?

I’ve spent the last few years trying to get better insight into the mind of a spouse who desires less sex.  Why?  Because I’m married to one, and one of my goals in life is to make her feel known and loved.  Unfortunately, the more

Anonymous Questions – April 19, 2018

Anonymous Questions from our readers

We only received one anonymous question in the last few weeks, which I discussed in our mailing list.  I’m posting my response here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read it, but also so people can start a discussion

Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?

Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?

A couple of weeks ago, I received this question on our anonymous questions page: My husband wants to occasionally dress as a woman, including makeup, wig, etc.  He insists there is no sex or “turn on” with it.  Early in our marriage he was open

Trapped gatekeepers – blame the guard, not the prisoner

Trapped gatekeepers - blame the guard, not he prisoner

In some marriages, the spouse with the lower sex drive simply decides their perspective is the most important and ends up being the gatekeeper of sex.  That is, they decide when sex is, what sort of sex there is, and generally it’s given out fairly

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?

Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with.  I know I have in the past.  To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my wife drunk so we can

How do you stop sinful behaviours? – Part 2

How do you stop sinful behaviours- Part 2

Last week I wrote a post about how to stop sinful behaviours.  In truth, I only gave half the answer. I wrote about recognizing how wretched we are and continuously dying to self.  I focused on that because as Christians, we tend to skip that

How do you stop sinful behaviours?

How do you stop sinful behaviours?

I get a lot of comments and questions from people asking “How do I stop sinful behaviour?” and it’s a difficult question to answer.  Whether you’re trying to quit porn, yelling at your kids, or overeating, it’s really the same issue.  Our sinful nature is

Is it sinful for widows to masturbate?

Is it okay for widows to masturbate?

How do you answer the question of whether or not it’s okay for widows to masturbate?  Well, I got asked this very question back in August and I’ll admit, I’ve been hesitant to answer it.  Here’s the comment from our Are sex toys allowed in

How do I deal with same-sex attraction as a Christian?

How do I deal with Same-Sex Attraction as a Christian

There are a lot of Christians dealing with same-sex attraction.  I think most of them don’t really know how to handle it.  It’s no wonder they don’t either.  We send a lot of confusing messages around in the Christian community about sexuality, especially when it’s