In July and August we surveyed 1,058 married Christians on manual sex, oral sex, mutual masturbation, and solo masturbation. This is the full breakdown: who does what, how often, what couples actually use, where the silence is loudest, and what…
In my last post, I wrote about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended. However, our society is…
Does the source of an idea determine whether or not it’s good? Let’s say you had a prior porn addiction and you saw something you want to try with your spouse, does that make it now sinful? Here’s a question…
I’ve spent the last few years trying to get better insight into the mind of a spouse who desires less sex. Why? Because I’m married to one, and one of my goals in life is to make her feel known…
We only received one anonymous question in the last few weeks, which I discussed in our mailing list. I’m posting my response here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read it, but also so…
A couple of weeks ago, I received this question on our anonymous questions page: My husband wants to occasionally dress as a woman, including makeup, wig, etc. He insists there is no sex or “turn on” with it. Early in…
In some marriages, the spouse with the lower sex drive simply decides their perspective is the most important and ends up being the gatekeeper of sex. That is, they decide when sex is, what sort of sex there is, and…
Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with. I know I have in the past. To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my…
Today we have a question from a reader asking about using a vibrator in bed next to her husband after sex (when he’s fallen asleep): Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasm…
Your children will watch porn. Does that thought terrify you? It did for me the first time I thought it. And before you think, “No, I can keep them from it”, I’m sad to say you can’t. Not in this…
Last week I wrote a post about how to stop sinful behaviours. In truth, I only gave half the answer. I wrote about recognizing how wretched we are and continuously dying to self. I focused on that because as Christians,…