Monthly Archives: October 2016

How to respond to an apology

I wrote a few posts about apologizing lately and realized it didn’t yet write one about how to respond to an apology.  So, how do you answer someone who said they’re sorry?

Are some men just not as visual as others?

Here’s a question I received through our Have A Question page a while back (I have a bit of a backlog). Are some men just not as visual as others? My husband doesn’t seem that affected by my physical appearance, and I am

I don’t think my spouse is attracted to me

I received this question through our Have A Question page yesterday: Why do I feel that my wife doesn’t find me attractive or desirable? For the past couple of years, I have been feeling like my wife doesn’t find me attractive anymore. She

6 things that stop people from forgiving

The other day I wrote about how to apologize properly.  The final step in the formula is to ask for forgiveness.  That forgiveness should always be extended, however, if you find yourself unable to offer forgiveness, here are six reasons you may want

What do you do if you suspect your spouse of secretly masturbating?

This week I got an email from one of my regular readers.  Here’s the basic backstory: I found your blog in spring of 2014 when I was 35 weeks pregnant with my third daughter and I couldn’t figure out why I felt so

Why you don’t feel God’s presence in your life

People say some interesting things regarding God’s presence.  I’ve heard two different people remark, after participating in the same church service: Wow, God was really present today, that worship service was so uplifting. And You could tell God just wasn’t with us today.

I’m sorry isn’t good enough

If you have a healthy marriage, then you’ll end up saying “I’m sorry” many times.  The problem is that saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t cut it.  If you want to see extra growth in your marriage, you’re going to have to take it to the

13 ways to be more present during sex

Yesterday I wrote against using fantasy while having sex.   In it I promised that I’d write a post on how to be more mindful during sex.  Here are thirteen ways that you can be more present during sex.  I hope it will help

Is it okay to fantasize about your spouse?

Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental.  In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us having sex in

Fantasy has a different context than reality

Often people are confused about how their brain works.  In this case, how it works in real life situations compared to when they are fantasizing.  Using fantasy, whether it be erotic stories, porn, or just a daydream, they can get all aroused easily.

Should a couple have joint bank accounts when they get married?

Should you have joint bank accounts as a couple?

  My youngest sister recently got married. One of the questions she asked in the first few days was if they should have joint accounts at the bank. Decades ago it wouldn’t even have been a question.  It was just something you did.