Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with. I know I have in the past. To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my…
Why is sex better when my spouse is drunk?
Glossary Term: sexual desire
Definition: It is the innate, biologically rooted inclination towards intimate physical contact or emotional connection with one's spouse, often manifesting as a longing for or anticipation of sexual activity.
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