Definition: It is the innate, biologically rooted inclination towards intimate physical contact or emotional connection with one's spouse, often manifesting as a longing for or anticipation of sexual activity.
If you’ve spent any time on this site, you might start to wonder if anyone actually has a good sex life. Problem after problem. Struggle after struggle. Mismatched drives, painful sex, dead bedrooms, porn addiction, resentment. It’s enough to make…
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Today we’re continuing with our Sex as Worship series, and in this post, we’re going to be talking about masturbation, which is a highly contested argument in Christianity. Is it okay, is it sinful, it is helpful or harmful? And…
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When intimacy keeps getting derailed by oddly timed comments about hygiene, illness, or unrelated problems, it’s easy to wonder if you’re losing your mind or being subtly shut down. This question comes up far more often than people realize, and…
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We trade God’s design for real, vulnerable intimacy for safe, synthetic illusions. Porn, erotica, and AI companions offer connection without cost but train us in selfishness, not love. They promise intimacy without risk, but only real, covenantal relationship can deliver…
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The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kicks in. As I often do, I asked her what she was thinking about.…
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The most common argument I hear for premarital sex is, “You need to know if you’re sexually compatible before getting married. Otherwise, you might end up stuck in a sexless, unfulfilling relationship.” And it sounds like sound reasoning. We test-drive…
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Recently, I’ve noticed a question popping up all over the place. It’s come up in our supporter forum, coaching sessions, emails, comments in our latest survey, and more. This question points to a fundamental tension in many marriages – at…
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I’ve had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called “duty sex” or “pity sex.” For those who don’t know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to…
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Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season. So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7. Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got…
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Topics: Is it okay to take nude pictures and videos of each other? Limon by Minna discount Asexual wife? Wife loves me, but isn’t in love with me Wife isn’t interested in improving our sex life Wish I married a…
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Topics include: Threesome temptations Aversion to receiving manual and oral sex Penis size Falling asleep during sexy time