This is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments. But, no…
Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex
Glossary Term: sexual arousal
Definition: It refers to the physiological response, often marked by increased heart rate and blood flow to certain regions of the body, that typically precedes sexual activity, stimulated by physical or psychological factors.
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