Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex

Jay Dee

Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex

Sep 01, 2016

This is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments.  But, no one is talking about this

Analingus, Rimming, Oral-Anal SexThis is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments.  But, no one is talking about this in the Christian sphere, and I keep getting questions asked.  So, I guess we should talk about it.

Plus, according to our anal sex and anal play survey, there’s a substantial percentage of Christians participating in this activity.  So, it’s not like I’m making up something they’re not doing.  Just opening up the discussion.

What is analingus?

Alright, if you don’t know, analingus is simply oral-anal sex.  That is, one spouse puts their mouth on the anus of the other.  It might just be kissing, licking or penetrating with a tongue.  It’s also known as rimming, or getting a rim-job.

Why would you want a rim-job?!

This is the question I sort of guess a lot of people are asking as they read this.  I mean, butts are generally considered sexy … anus … not so much.  Or some may say “well, this is just because of porn”.  But porn generally doesn’t invent new things.  They take things that are already of interest to us and then push it to the extreme.  In this case it probably has to do with the number of nerve endings around the anus.  A pastor once told me “There are no pleasure nerves there, if there were, I’d enjoy going to the bathroom a lot more!”  But, the thing is, those nerve signals are filtered by our brain and our brain is very good at determining context.

Bathroom time is not sexy time, and so the sexual inhibitor system in our brain says “No, this is not arousing” and puts the breaks on arousal.  But, in the right context, there are thousands of nerve endings that can light up.  Some people (men and women) can even have orgasms just from having this tissue stimulated.  So, it’s no wonder that people who have figured this out might want to explore it, and their spouses may be willing to engage in this for their enjoyment.

Do Christians actually engage in oral-anal sex?

Yeah, turns out some of them do.  In our survey on anal sex and anal play, 67 of the 516 respondents (13%) said that their spouse gives them oral-anal sex.  114 said they do this for their spouse (22%).  For 37 of them (7% of the total), each spouse engages in this and it’s reciprocated.  Together, 144 of our respondents (28%) said that they engaged in oral-anal sex in their marriage.

28%!  More than a quarter, getting close to a third.  Now, granted, my readers tends to be a bit more sex-positive than the regular fare, but still.  I’ll admit, I was surprised.

So, yeah, people are doing this.  I don’t know who they are, I mean, no one talks about it, but they exist.

Is this medically safe?

I’m not a doctor, so I can’t give a medical opinion.  When this gets brought up, as with any discussion about anal play, I see a lot of people virtually screaming “But there’s feces there!”  And that’s true.  But, we also have showers and soap and cloth to clean things with.  After all, if 28% of Christians are engaging in this activity and it caused terrible infections or diseases…well, I think someone would be warning people.

Don’t take that as me saying you should do this, I’m just saying people are, and they seem to be okay.

If you want to try it, I’ve heard that you can use saran wrap with something like coconut oil on the non-mouth side as a barrier to keep it any cross contamination from happening while still ensuring the sensations are transmitted well.  I don’t have any experience with this, so I can’t say if it works or not.  It’s just something I heard somewhere.

Is this sinful?

I don’t see how.  I mean, if anal sex is okay, I don’t see how this could be any different.  Though I’m sure some will disagree with me.

 

So, there you go.  Hopefully that answers your questions about oral-anal sex.  If there’s anything I didn’t address, let me know in the comments below.

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