We see a lot of people in Christianity saying that men have to earn the right to have sex with their wife. While I believe the advice is well-intentioned, and may even be practical, it is not biblical and it leads to some serious issues.
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Why am I always the one who has to initiate sex?
This past week, we were having a discussion in our Uncovering Intimacy Champions group. I won’t post the full start of the conversation because I haven’t asked if I could, but the gist of it was this: How do you keep initiating sex when your spouse,
I’ll never be good enough
When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship. We had sex more often, and it was more varied. We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion
SWM030 – Credentials, sex and sickness, falling out of love, self control and how to start leading
Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so. This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven’t been.
Review: Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System
Every month, more than 1000 people come to this blog looking for information on how to introduce bondage into their marital bed or asking why it is that their spouse wants to be tied up. Some of that is due to the 50 Shades of
SWM029 – Fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers and work during sex
Episode 29. Today we’re answering questions about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low sex drives.
Why do I smell bad (down there) after we’ve had sex?
There are many women who suffer from this condition, an unpleasant smell or odour after sex, sometimes for days or even a week afterwards. Here’s a question about it from one of our readers: I have a question I have wondered about for years. This
How do I open up to my spouse sexually?
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse
External events can stop a sex session from going anywhere
For many spouses, external events can negatively affect the sexual context. This generally is the wife, but not always, as this reader’s question shows: We are working through a sexual refusal pattern in marriage and we are making good progress. Last night I pointed out
SWM028 – Answering questions about oral sex before marriage, joint bank accounts, toys, dirty talking and grooming
I’m changing up the format of the podcast a bit this week and answering some reader questions.
Your relationship has to be based on more than just sex
I was talking with Keelie from LoveHopeAdventure.com today and we got into a conversation about intimacy. In particular, about intimacy while dating. It ended up being a good discussion, and so I thought I’d share what I shared with her because this affects not only couples