I had intended to write this post last year some time, after our orgasm difficulties survey. But, I guess I got sidetracked with a bunch of other topics, and it was forgotten until yesterday’s post. It’s a bit ironic that…
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You cannot make a refuser generous
I get a lot of husbands and wives asking me how to change their spouse. How do you make them go from a refuser to a generous spouse? After all, I managed it, so what’s the trick? The truth is,…
Christians and Erectile Dysfunction Medication
Here’s a question I received from our anonymous Have a Question page about dealing with erectile dysfunction: Hey Jay! Have you ever dealt with the Christian’s response to medications that are designed to help men with E.D.? I’m into my…
Discussion about initiating sex
We’re going to try something a bit different today, we’re going to try a discussion question. Basically, I’m not going to write a post, I’m just going to ask a couple of questions and open the floor to comments below.…
What if your spouse thinks a specific sex act is immoral?
I received this question through our anonymous Have A Question page back in May: What advice would you have for someone who enjoys oral sex but their spouse’s religious beliefs (as some do) teach that oral sex is sinful? That’s…
SWM026: Last Minute Father’s Day Gift Ideas
SWM 026
Father’s Day is this Sunday, and I thought we’d share some last-minute Father’s Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast. We’ve got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an…
Initiation only counts if your spouse recognizes it
My wife and I were talking about people’s responses to yesterday’s post. Our conversation let to what initiation was. We had just had sex, and I mentioned that I had initiated that encounter. Initially she disagreed saying “I came to…
Be Authentic about your Sexual Desire
I get a lot of emails from spouses. I get to read about a lot of marriages in those emails. I get to read about how spouses react, how they think, their struggles, their concerns, their hopes, their fears. One…
Garbage In – Garbage Out
When I was in school for software engineering, we had a lot of acronyms that floated around. One of the was GIGO. Garbage In – Garbage Out. The point was that we always had to validate what the user put…
We tend to do what we like
I received this anonymous question from our Have A Question page back in a couple of months ago. I’m married for 29 years. I love being with my husband sexually but why do I always have to remind him slow…
I miss porn
Some days I miss porn. Isn’t that sick? It’s true though. And I think a lot of people who have quit porn miss it from time to time. Same goes for masturbating. And often the two are tied together, but…