I received a question recently about the topic of make-up sex. It’s something I’ve been thinking about as well for the last year or so, so I’m glad they brought it up. Here’s the question (used with permission): Today at…
Is make-up sex a myth?
Glossary Term: sexual desire
Definition: It is the innate, biologically rooted inclination towards intimate physical contact or emotional connection with one's spouse, often manifesting as a longing for or anticipation of sexual activity.
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