Definition: 'Conflict' refers to a state of disagreement or disharmony between spouses due to differing views, ideas, needs, or expectations, which can be resolved through effective communication and mutual understanding.
It often happens that one spouse becomes the gatekeeper of sex in a marriage. I think a lot of the time, they don’t even realize they are. Sometimes it’s because they’re selfish. Sometimes it’s because they have misunderstandings about sex.…
Do you have a plan to survive the holidays? Between Christmas and New Year’s, there is this perfect storm for couples that many stumble into every year. It only comes up once a year, so often we’re caught unprepared and…
I received a question recently about the topic of make-up sex. It’s something I’ve been thinking about as well for the last year or so, so I’m glad they brought it up. Here’s the question (used with permission): Today at…
I get a fair number of emails where one spouse is putting the kids first in the marriage. Most often it’s the wife, but I have had a few emails from wives where it’s the other way around. Putting the kids first…
This week I got an email from one of my regular readers. Here’s the basic backstory: I found your blog in spring of 2014 when I was 35 weeks pregnant with my third daughter and I couldn’t figure out why…
My family and I are away for the weekend for my baby sister’s wedding. Last night was the rehearsal and my other sister asked “So, is your speech ready?” Well, this was the first I’d heard of a speech, so…
I can’t tell you how many couples don’t talk when things are bad. They just keep silent expecting … I don’t know what. I guess they expect that their spouse will get the hint and change. The problem is that…
I get a lot of emails from people wondering if they married the wrong person. Generally it’s because they’re unhappy in their marriage and feel like it would be better/easier with a different spouse. Sometimes it’s because they feel they…
I get a lot of emails from spouses. I get to read about a lot of marriages in those emails. I get to read about how spouses react, how they think, their struggles, their concerns, their hopes, their fears. One…
There are a lot of the times that we do the devils work for him. We repeat his lies, we carry his messages, we relay his orders. I think this happens a lot more than we realize, and I think…
I received this question almost a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: When we first got together my husband was a reasonable lover in that he seemed to care about my needs somewhat. He quickly turned into…