Definition: 'Conflict' refers to a state of disagreement or disharmony between spouses due to differing views, ideas, needs, or expectations, which can be resolved through effective communication and mutual understanding.
You know the cycle. Something happens, a tone of voice, a forgotten commitment, a moment that stings, and suddenly you’re both defending your corners instead of actually connecting. You talk at each other. You wait for your turn to explain…
Often the fights we have as couples aren’t about what we think they are. Because while we think we’re fighting about respect, sex, tone, in-laws, money, kids or anything else under the sun, often the real issue is far less…
In my work as a marriage coach, I often see couples transition from one type of marriage to another. There’s no clear line between these states, no set of rules that definitively places someone in one category or the other.…
Last week, I shared a list of ideas our Couple’s Night group had that helped build a resilient marriage. At the end of the call, we still had some time and started discussing fighting more effectively. Again, the group came…
I made a post on social media some time ago saying, “Marriage is hard, divorce is hard, choose your hard,” and someone asked me if I then disagreed with some other bloggers and podcasters who say that marriage is and…
Answering the anonymous questions from April 2019 from our Have A Question page. Topics Include: Wife looking up ex Wife used to be a swinger Is bondage okay? Our sex life is boring Wife destroying self-esteem Is it okay to…
You remember having advent calendars as a kid? Every day you get a chocolate, or a toy or something. For nearly a whole month, every day there was something exciting to look forward to the next day. Holidays don’t exactly…
Does a disagreement always mean an argument? Does resolving it always mean compromise or someone changing their opinion? I’ve had this question come up a few times this week from multiple sources. Many people believe that a difference in opinion…
My spouse is in a unique position to hurt me more deeply and more often than anyone else, simply by being in an intimate (not just physically) relationship with me. She knows how to push my buttons better and harder…
In the last couple of weeks, we’ve received a few anonymous questions, and as I mentioned on our weekly update to the newsletter (subscribe here if you haven’t already), I’ll be answering them here for those who want to read…
There are differing views within Christianity regarding divorce. Some don’t really see a problem with it at all, that if you are unhappy, you should leave. Others believe the very word should be stricken from our vocabulary. They believe that…