Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”. These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why:…
Never use absolute accusations
Glossary Term: conflict resolution
Definition: It is the process of identifying, addressing, and resolving disagreements or disputes within a marital relationship in a manner that fosters mutual understanding, respect, and harmony.
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