Definition: It is the process of identifying, addressing, and resolving disagreements or disputes within a marital relationship in a manner that fosters mutual understanding, respect, and harmony.
SWM 163
A couple describes their latest fight. The dishwasher, bedtime, whether you deal with a problem the moment it comes up or sleep on it first. The details change, but both of them are frustrated and both are certain they are…
If you’ve spent any time on this site, you might start to wonder if anyone actually has a good sex life. Problem after problem. Struggle after struggle. Mismatched drives, painful sex, dead bedrooms, porn addiction, resentment. It’s enough to make…
You know the cycle. Something happens, a tone of voice, a forgotten commitment, a moment that stings, and suddenly you’re both defending your corners instead of actually connecting. You talk at each other. You wait for your turn to explain…
Often the fights we have as couples aren’t about what we think they are. Because while we think we’re fighting about respect, sex, tone, in-laws, money, kids or anything else under the sun, often the real issue is far less…
SWM 131
Last week, I shared a list of ideas our Couple’s Night group had that helped build a resilient marriage. At the end of the call, we still had some time and started discussing fighting more effectively. Again, the group came…
SWM 107
Topics include: Wife wants too much sex Couple needs counselling Keep having the same unproductive fight Make boundaries before you start dating Sexy underwear for men
SWM 064
Topics include: The Motorbunny Where’s the eye candy for women? Body odour Remarriage Hating doggy style Nagging
Does a disagreement always mean an argument? Does resolving it always mean compromise or someone changing their opinion? I’ve had this question come up a few times this week from multiple sources. Many people believe that a difference in opinion…
My spouse is in a unique position to hurt me more deeply and more often than anyone else, simply by being in an intimate (not just physically) relationship with me. She knows how to push my buttons better and harder…
As with last week, I’m posting my responses to this week’s anonymous questions here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read them, but also so people can start a discussion in the comments section…
Why do you initiate conversations in your marriage? Chances are they’re for the wrong reasons. I know mine were for years. Still are half the time to be honest. I’m not talking about the “Who is going to pick up…