One thing my wife started doing when we were trying to improve our sex life was to start to go to bed naked. Now, she doesn’t actually like to sleep naked, she gets weird dreams, or is too cold, but…
Want more sex? Go to bed naked!
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Why do some wives like their hair pulled?
This is a question that confuses some husbands, and some wives as well, including those who like their hair pulled. They wonder why they like it. They didn’t like it growing up when their siblings pulled their hair, and in…
2013 Annual Review
Well, another year has passed. Sex Within Marriage will be 2 years old in a couple weeks time and it’s been an amazing experience. I’ve learned a lot about blogging, Social Media, and search engine optimization in an effort to…
When Is The Best Time To Talk About Sex With Your Spouse?
In Christianity, we spend a lot of time talking about when is the right time to talk about sex with your kids or sexual boundaries with a boyfriend/girlfriend, but usually the question “When is the best time to talk about…
Book Review: The Fantasy Fallacy
Last month, I finally got to read The Fantasy Fallacy by Shannon Ethridge. It had been in my kindle for a while just itching to be read. The Fantasy Fallacy addresses a timeless question I think, but made even more…
Does having kids ruin your sex life?
It’s a fairly common belief: the idea that kids ruin your sex life. We see it in movies, in TV shows. It’s so pervasive that it’s become almost accepted as truth. In fact, there are couples who decide not to…
Oral Sex Survey Results
Update, August 2026 This survey is from 2013 and had 136 respondents. In 2026 we ran a much larger survey covering oral sex along with manual sex and mutual and solo masturbation, and got 1,058 complete responses. The directions below…
Is it OK not to swallow?
For most of our marriage, oral sex has been very one sided. For the first years, it was solely me performing oral sex on my wife, and never the other way around. It took her years to get accustomed to…
Is it okay to track how often you have sex?
How often do you have sex? Do you know? Are you sure? Do you ever have a disagreement about when the last time you had sex was? Or how often you have sex on average? I came across a study…
Is scheduled sex helpful for a marriage?
Often the idea of scheduling sex is met by resistance from one or both spouses in a marriage.
Is masturbation a sin?
This has been an ongoing discussion/disagreement between Paul Byerly and I for just over a year now. I have a great respect for Paul, and enjoy our game of theological tennis, even if we don’t see eye to eye on a few…