Jay Dee, Author at Uncovering Intimacy

Why Don’t I Give My Wife More Massages?

I know that if I want more sex, all I have to do is give more massages, not as a trade, but because it puts my wife in the mood. So, why don’t I do it?

How do I get my spouse to do [blank]?

Want to change your spouse? Trying to figure out how to do it? Thinking “how can I get my spouse to do this”? Here’s how you do it.

What does household leadership mean for the husband?

Ever wonder what household leadership feels like in terms of responsibility for the husband? Think it’s all just fun and getting your way? Guess again.

How Sex Impacts the Rest of My Life

My wife got bronchitis last month, so, our sex life has not been a priority. Here’s what I noticed about how it impacted the rest of my life.

What Happened To Sex When Christianity Split From Judaism?

In Jewish law, sex is not considered shameful, sinful or obscene. So, how did Christianity mess this up? What happened when we split?

What Is Your Goal?

I often read, in forums and comments, complaints from one spouse or another who isn’t getting what they want out of sex. Sometimes it has to do with a very simple problem of the spouses not knowing each other’s goals in a sexual encounter (or all of them).

Book Review: Grandma’s Sex Handbook

I had high hopes. It has some good basic concepts, but also some serious issues that cause me not to be able to recommend this book.

Book Review: Eden Derailed

This book is about the theology of sex. This is not a book about practical advice, though there is some sprinkled throughout. This is a discussion of how the fall changed sex, and our struggle with it in this life. That said, it’s incredibly impacting.

What is Christian Porn?

Today we’re going to talk about Christian porn and whether such a thing actually exists. I do a lot of research about sexuality and theology. Those are the two biggest areas of research in my life. It’s no surprise, then, that I eventually started a blog

Is There A Good Way To Tell Your Husband “No Sex Tonight”?

Wondering how to tell your husband “no sex tonight” without hurting his feeling? Is it even possible? The answer is simple, but the explanation is longer.