Topics Include: Crossdressing Reframing “duty” sex Wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t Afraid to have more children
SWM 109 – Crossdressing, reframing duty sex, wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t
Glossary Term: sexual refusal
Definition: 'Sexual refusal' is the act of one partner in a marital relationship consciously declining to participate in sexual activity for any reason, exercising their right to personal autonomy and bodily integrity.
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