Definition: 'Sexual refusal' is the act of one partner in a marital relationship consciously declining to participate in sexual activity for any reason, exercising their right to personal autonomy and bodily integrity.
SWM 161
A husband writes: seventeen years married, sex twice a week, and his wife will not try anything beyond the basics. He says he does not know why she refuses. But she told him why, four times, and he heard it…
SWM 109
Topics Include: Crossdressing Reframing “duty” sex Wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t Afraid to have more children
SWM 087
Topics Include: Low Drive / Low T Husband Wife won’t talk about sex Not attracted to my husband Wife against spicing up sex Is there a difference between having sex and making love?
Topics include: Husbands who refuse sex Being too wet Pegging Dreams Needing different kinds of foreplay Polyamory Cuckolding
Anonymous questions from February 2020. Topics include: How can I become more comfortable masturbating? Why wouldn’t he use lube? How to have “team sex” (not what you think) Husband can’t be emotionally intimate or trust me Meta discussion about piercings How…
As with last week, I’m posting my responses to this week’s anonymous questions here on the blog so that those not on the weekly newsletter can read them, but also so people can start a discussion in the comments section…
For many spouses, external events can negatively affect the sexual context. This generally is the wife, but not always, as this reader’s question shows: We are working through a sexual refusal pattern in marriage and we are making good progress.…
A couple of posts ago, I wrote about being more skilled at initiating sex, but today we’re going to tackle rejection. I think sexual rejection might be one of the touchiest conflicts to handle in marriage. It’s hard to do…
It often happens that one spouse becomes the gatekeeper of sex in a marriage. I think a lot of the time, they don’t even realize they are. Sometimes it’s because they’re selfish. Sometimes it’s because they have misunderstandings about sex.…
Not a week goes by that I don’t see this portrayed in a comment or email from a reader. Their spouse has committed, or is committing, some sin, and so their response is that they have to do something wrong as…
I received this question almost a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: When we first got together my husband was a reasonable lover in that he seemed to care about my needs somewhat. He quickly turned into…