Tag Archives: sexual frequency

SWM 054 – Anonymous Questions – February 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous questions from February 2020.

Topics include:
How can I become more comfortable masturbating?
Why wouldn’t he use lube?
How to have “team sex” (not what you think)
Husband can’t be emotionally intimate or trust me
Meta discussion about piercings
How do I start to fix my marriage?
Becoming more sexually engaged

Post-Sex Dynamics and Routines Survey Results

A couple of months ago, I posted a survey asking some questions about sexual drives, refractory periods and post-sex routines.  I was hoping we could get 1,000 responses this time.  Well, we made it!  So, here’s my analysis of the responses, for your reading pleasure

Simultaneous orgasm survey results

Simultaneous orgasms aren’t really talked about much.  Yet, many people expect them to occur frequently, if not all the time.  Some even think that if they can’t achieve it, then there is something wrong with the relationship. I think this is largely due to our

Sex, clothing and lighting survey results

A few months ago (back in August), I started running a survey asking about couple’s habits regarding sex, clothing, lighting and a few other things.  I’ve had some random questions lately from people asking if lingerie makes a difference, or if having sex with the

Sometimes you need to stop talking

Sometimes you need to stop talking

I’m always going to be in favor of communication, but there are times when you need to stop talking and just start actually doing something, even in marriage where communication is a vital skill.  Today we’re going to look at some of these things. 1.

Why it’s important to talk about sex

Why it's important to talk about sex

Every once in a while, someone contacts me saying their spouse won’t talk to them about sex.  Sometimes it’s part of a larger issue of not wanting to talk at all, but often every other topic is acceptable, it’s just sex that isn’t.  So, I

A day of sex

A Day of Sex

We tried something recently that I thought I’d share, because it might interest some of you.  Warning: If you’re currently in a marriage where your spouse is actively gate-keeping or refusing sex, don’t read this.  It will just irritate you. I was listening to some

Talking about sex survey results

Talking about sex - survey results

Probably the number one piece of advice I hand out to people is “talk to your spouse about it”.  It’s amazing how often that simple answer makes huge changes in marriage. But, I wanted to know how much of a difference talking about sex makes.

Orgasming from oral sex survey results

A couple of weeks ago, I started running a survey to answer the question of one of the people in my Uncovering Intimacy Champions group.  Namely “How many men can’t orgasm from oral sex”.  Well, I expanded it a bit to answer a few more

Was it good for you?

A lot of couples fail to talk about their sex life with each other.  Many are afraid to discuss what they’re doing.  If you think about it, it’s kind of funny.  I mean, they’re willing to be naked and physically intimate, be opening up and

Do Christians shave their pubic hair?

For those of you who have filled out the survey (and if you didn’t, you still can here), you know that one of the reasons I ran the survey was because someone made the comment: [My wife] claims that NO ONE does that every week,