There’s been a saying in Christian circles that’s been driving me crazy for a while now. You’ve probably heard it. I know I did many times before I got married. “Sex is not that important. It’s just icing on the cake.” Or some variant of
When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship. We had sex more often, and it was more varied. We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion
Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so. This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven’t been.
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse
A couple of weeks ago, I started running a survey to answer the question of one of the people in my Uncovering Intimacy Champions group. Namely “How many men can’t orgasm from oral sex”. Well, I expanded it a bit to answer a few more
I think one of the biggest conflicts regarding sex with a lot of couples is simply how initiation and rejection are handled. From both sides. I think if we could improve that one back and forth conversation, a lot of marriages would be a substantial
I think a lot of spouses don’t ask for what they want in bed. I think this is frustrating for both spouses because the spouse who doesn’t ask if often not getting what they want or need to make the sexual experience the best it can
It often happens that one spouse becomes the gatekeeper of sex in a marriage. I think a lot of the time, they don’t even realize they are. Sometimes it’s because they’re selfish. Sometimes it’s because they have misunderstandings about sex. Sometimes it’s because they have
We’re having a rough time lately with regard to bed times. Our youngest just doesn’t want to sleep when we want to sleep when we want to sleep. He’ll pass out on the floor at supper time, which is a terrible time for a nap
I received a question recently about the topic of make-up sex. It’s something I’ve been thinking about as well for the last year or so, so I’m glad they brought it up. Here’s the question (used with permission): Today at church, I was in the
I regularly have someone ask me how they can encourage their spouse to do something new sexually. For example, here’s a question from our Have A Question page: How can a husband encourage his wife to deep throat and swallow his semen without seaming demanding or better