SWM030 – Credentials, sex and sickness, falling out of love, self control and how to start leading
Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so. This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven’t been.
213 – What are your credentials? That is the first question my wife will ask when I offer some information from your blog.
212 – Hello my wife is sick and can barely have sex. As a man, I have strong urges but I feel bad always asking her when she’s been sick for months. Sometimes I feel like I’m being abusive never have I thought of cheating with another woman. I love her with all of my heart and I love God I want to obey him with everything. When I’m alone I think of her and masturbate .. is this wrong? It helps me not bother her and I pray for her recovery.
210 – Hi Jay Dee, I’ve communicated to my husband about trying new things and not holding back after 13 years of marriage. He is recently making changes for spiritual growth which I’m all for. It seems to me that he doesn’t really give our sex life a thought. I’ve tried lingerie and listening when he tells me about the stress he feels. I’m to the point now where sex isn’t even a thought for me and I feel differently when we do have sex like that part of me has no more spirit for sex. What can I do? Is this a stage of falling out of love with my husband? What is this?
Question 4 & 5
199 – My question is I’ve been married for 5 years now and the past 2 years my wife lost all sexual desires we have sex like 3 times a month now and now I’m catching myself masturbating a lot and I don’t want to go out and cheat per say.. please need advice
193 – My wife doesn’t seem to want to have sex with me. She will about once every 10 days to 21 days. But as she says she doesn’t want to. How does a man just turn it off and still bond to her? I find myself pulling away and feel like I could be tempted to look somewhere else.
195 – I’m naturally a bit submissive, or maybe I’ve just been lazy as a Husband and haven’t taken the reigns of my family as God has designed. I’ve failed in the leadership of our family (married 13 yrs, 4 boys). I feel like I’ve let my wife down and placed burdens on her that I as head of our household should have carried or be carrying. Any advice, or how might I go about taking those reigns back, communicating with my wife about this, and leading my family properly and in a Godly fashion? How might I communicate my desire, and God’s desire for her, and general discussion of roles in marriage? Great blog by the way, and maybe you’ve already touched on this topic. Sincerely, Stepping Up
Links to resources I mentioned
- Hot Mama on Amazon
- Household Hierarchy: What does our physiology say about who should lead?
- Household Leadership: According to the Bible, which gender should lead?
- What does household leadership mean for the husband?
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