SWM 163
A couple describes their latest fight. The dishwasher, bedtime, whether you deal with a problem the moment it comes up or sleep on it first. The details change, but both of them are frustrated and both are certain they are…
SWM 162
A wife posted her list of instant divorce triggers, and the top item was her husband finding God and joining a patriarchal religion. I understand why. Most of what gets called headship is a man reading two verses and deciding…
SWM 161
A husband writes: seventeen years married, sex twice a week, and his wife will not try anything beyond the basics. He says he does not know why she refuses. But she told him why, four times, and he heard it…
SWM 160
Social media says the mental load is a chore problem, and that if husbands just did their half, their exhausted wives would finally want them. But splitting the load in half does not lift it. Here is why the mental…
SWM 159
“I struggle with rejection, even when I haven’t actually been rejected.” If that lands for you, there’s a name for it: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and it’s closely tied to ADHD. Here’s what RSD is, how it quietly damages a marriage…
Survey data from over 1,000 married Christians reveals the same pattern across every sexual activity we measured: couples who talk openly about sex are dramatically more satisfied than those who don’t. If you’ve been sitting on something unsaid, the silence…
SWM 158
Today we’re continuing with our Sex as Worship series, and in this post, we’re going to be talking about masturbation, which is a highly contested argument in Christianity. Is it okay, is it sinful, it is helpful or harmful? And…
SWM 157
When intimacy keeps getting derailed by oddly timed comments about hygiene, illness, or unrelated problems, it’s easy to wonder if you’re losing your mind or being subtly shut down. This question comes up far more often than people realize, and…
SWM 156
We trade God’s design for real, vulnerable intimacy for safe, synthetic illusions. Porn, erotica, and AI companions offer connection without cost but train us in selfishness, not love. They promise intimacy without risk, but only real, covenantal relationship can deliver…
SWM 155
We live in a world that has learned to separate what God never divided. Hookup culture is the next stage of sex stripped of meaning – where bodies meet, but no one truly connects. I’m continuing this series exploring how,…
SWM 154
In my last post, I wrote about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended. However, our society is…