Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com Answering questions about married sexuality and intimacy Sun, 16 Jun 2019 17:17:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.2.1 Jay Dee from the blog UncoveringIntimacy.com explores married sexuality from a Christian perspective. Each week we'll explore topics relating to married sexuality from psychology, physiology and also explore what the Bible says about sex, and how to apply that to our lives. We'll also take listener's questions and answer them with frank, but informative answers, drawing on our communities experiences through surveys when applicable. If you have a question you'd like answered on the podcast, please visit UncoveringIntimacy.com to submit your anonymous question on our Have A Question page. So, if you want a healthy, vibrant, active sex life but have questions that are holding you back, please tune in and learn about how amazing and fulfilling marriage can be. Jay Dee - Marriage Educator clean episodic Jay Dee - Marriage Educator jay@uncoveringintimacy.com jay@uncoveringintimacy.com (Jay Dee - Marriage Educator) Copyright 2019 Uncovering Intimacy Your number one resource for understanding sexuality within the context of a Christian marriage. We explore married sexuality from psychological, physiological and theological angles as well as exploring real life application of real intimacy. Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/Sex-Within-Marriage-Podcast-v3.png https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com jay@uncoveringintimacy.com Support this podcast SWM 044 – Anonymous Questions from February and March 2019 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-044-anonymous-questions-from-february-and-march-2019/ Sun, 09 Jun 2019 14:46:45 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18994 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-044-anonymous-questions-from-february-and-march-2019/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-044-anonymous-questions-from-february-and-march-2019/feed/ 12

Tackling February and March 2019 questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we're tackling the subjects:

  • Is doggy style demeaning?
  • Does anal sex always cause bleeding?
  • How to start talking about sex with a sensitive wife?
  • Can you have sex with an unsaved spouse?
  • How to handle a wife orgasming too quickly
  • Mutual Masturbation
  • Swallowing your own semen
  • Can you be married to the wrong person?
  • Is sexlessness being unfaithful?
  • Ethical porn
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Lastly, we're closing in our our next support goal! 82% of the way there!
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Answering questions from our readers. Questions include: Is doggy style demeaning? Does anal sex always cause bleeding? How to start talking about sex with a sensitive wife? Can you have sex with an unsaved spouse? <p>Tackling February and March 2019 questions from our anonymous <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-044-anonymous-questions-from-february-and-march-2019/">show notes here</a> for more details and links.</p><p>In this episode, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Is doggy style demeaning?</li><li>Does anal sex always cause bleeding?</li><li>How to start talking about sex with a sensitive wife?</li><li>Can you have sex with an unsaved spouse?</li><li>How to handle a wife orgasming too quickly</li><li>Mutual Masturbation</li><li>Swallowing your own semen</li><li>Can you be married to the wrong person?</li><li>Is sexlessness being unfaithful?</li><li>Ethical porn</li></ul>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Lastly, we're closing in our our next support goal! 82% of the way there!<br />If you'd like weekly podcasts, check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">support page</a> for more info.</p><p>And our survey post should be up this week some time. There won't be a podcast, so make sure you <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">subscribe to the newsletter</a> so you don't miss it.</p> Jay Dee clean 42:07 <p>Tackling February and March 2019 questions from our anonymous <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-044-anonymous-questions-from-february-and-march-2019/">show notes here</a> for more details and links.</p><p>In this episode, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Is doggy style demeaning?</li><li>Does anal sex always cause bleeding?</li><li>How to start talking about sex with a sensitive wife?</li><li>Can you have sex with an unsaved spouse?</li><li>How to handle a wife orgasming too quickly</li><li>Mutual Masturbation</li><li>Swallowing your own semen</li><li>Can you be married to the wrong person?</li><li>Is sexlessness being unfaithful?</li><li>Ethical porn</li></ul>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Lastly, we're closing in our our next support goal! 82% of the way there!<br />If you'd like weekly podcasts, check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">support page</a> for more info.</p><p>And our survey post should be up this week some time. There won't be a podcast, so make sure you <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">subscribe to the newsletter</a> so you don't miss it.</p>
SWM 043 – Anonymous Questions from April 2019 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-043-anonymous-questions-from-april-2019/ Sun, 26 May 2019 19:57:03 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18846 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-043-anonymous-questions-from-april-2019/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-043-anonymous-questions-from-april-2019/feed/ 0

Tackling the newest questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here.

In this third and final part, we're tackling the subjects:

  • Wife looking up ex
  • Wife used to be a swinger
  • Is bondage okay?
  • Our sex life is boring
  • Wife destroying self-esteem
  • Is it okay to buy my wife lingerie for my birthday?
  • Wife teasing husband sexually
  • Why does my husband want to lick my ass?!
  • and more ...

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Some other updates:

We're closing in our our next support goal! If you'd like weekly podcasts, check out our support page for more info.

And I'm done the analysis from our latest survey. I just need to post the results, so they should be up soon.

Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call 1-833-719-0228 and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also text me.

Answering the anonymous questions from April 2019 from our Have A Question page. Topics Include: Wife looking up ex Wife used to be a swinger Is bondage okay? Our sex life is boring Wife destroying self-esteem <p>Tackling the newest questions from our anonymous <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-043-anonymous-questions-from-april-2019/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>In this third and final part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Wife looking up ex</li><li>Wife used to be a swinger</li><li>Is bondage okay?</li><li>Our sex life is boring</li><li>Wife destroying self-esteem</li><li>Is it okay to buy my wife lingerie for my birthday?</li><li>Wife teasing husband sexually</li><li>Why does my husband want to lick my ass?!</li><li>and more ...</li></ul></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p> Some other updates:</p><p>We're closing in our our next support goal! If you'd like weekly podcasts, check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">support page</a> for more info.</p><p>And I'm done the analysis from our latest survey. I just need to post the results, so they should be up soon.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p> Jay Dee clean 38:22 <p>Tackling the newest questions from our anonymous <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-043-anonymous-questions-from-april-2019/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>In this third and final part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Wife looking up ex</li><li>Wife used to be a swinger</li><li>Is bondage okay?</li><li>Our sex life is boring</li><li>Wife destroying self-esteem</li><li>Is it okay to buy my wife lingerie for my birthday?</li><li>Wife teasing husband sexually</li><li>Why does my husband want to lick my ass?!</li><li>and more ...</li></ul></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p> Some other updates:</p><p>We're closing in our our next support goal! If you'd like weekly podcasts, check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">support page</a> for more info.</p><p>And I'm done the analysis from our latest survey. I just need to post the results, so they should be up soon.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p>
SWM042 – God will never leave you https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/ Sun, 21 Apr 2019 14:06:00 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18705 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/feed/ 3

This is a sermon I wrote and preached in my home church on Matthew 19:1-11 - Jesus responding to the Pharisees asking about divorce.

Check out the video here: https://youtu.be/XZCdnDSKO4U

Get the show notes / text of the sermon here: https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/

This is a sermon I wrote and preached in my home church on Matthew 19:1-11 - Jesus responding to the Pharisees asking about divorce. <p>This is a sermon I wrote and preached in my home church on Matthew 19:1-11 - Jesus responding to the Pharisees asking about divorce.</p><p>Check out the video here: <a href="https://youtu.be/XZCdnDSKO4U">https://youtu.be/XZCdnDSKO4U</a></p><p>Get the show notes / text of the sermon here: <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/">https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/</a></p> Jay Dee clean 32:54 <p>This is a sermon I wrote and preached in my home church on Matthew 19:1-11 - Jesus responding to the Pharisees asking about divorce.</p><p>Check out the video here: <a href="https://youtu.be/XZCdnDSKO4U">https://youtu.be/XZCdnDSKO4U</a></p><p>Get the show notes / text of the sermon here: <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/">https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/</a></p>
SWM041 – How do you stay interested long term? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm041-how-do-you-stay-interested-long-term/ Sun, 14 Apr 2019 18:35:14 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18683 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm041-how-do-you-stay-interested-long-term/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm041-how-do-you-stay-interested-long-term/feed/ 5

It happened again. I was answering questions from February and March from our Have A Question page, and the answer to this one turned into it's own blog post and podcast episode. Check out the blog post here.

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Analysis of our latest survey has started, and should be out soon. Don't want to miss it? Be sure to join our mailing list.

Are there things you have to do to keep interest in your spouse? Here are 7 tips to help you stay interested and renew attraction in your spouse. <p>It happened again. I was answering questions from February and March from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page, and the answer to this one turned into it's own blog post and podcast episode. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm041-how-do-you-stay-interested-long-term/">blog post here</a>.</p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Some of the links mentioned in the podcast:<ul><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/do-you-control-your-emotions-or-do-they-control-you/">Do you control your emotions or do they control you?</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-youve-broken-your-wedding-vows/">Have you broken your wedding vows?</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/spouse-attracted/">Attraction Survey</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2Ikq0ox">Conversation Starters Book</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/37-questions-for-spouses-to-ask-each-other-about-sex/">37 Questions for spouses to ask each other about sex</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/masturbation-problem-whether-youre-married-single/">Why solo masturbation is a problem if you're single</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/scheduled-sex-helpful-marriage/">Scheduling sex</a></li></ul></p><p>Want more podcast episodes to listen to? We're 79% of the way to the next goal, which will mean weekly podcasts. Did you know most of our supporters only give $5/month. Add your pocket change to help us meet our goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Analysis of our latest survey has started, and should be out soon. Don't want to miss it? Be sure to <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">join our mailing list</a>.</p> Jay Dee clean 21:09 <p>It happened again. I was answering questions from February and March from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page, and the answer to this one turned into it's own blog post and podcast episode. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm041-how-do-you-stay-interested-long-term/">blog post here</a>.</p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Some of the links mentioned in the podcast:<ul><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/do-you-control-your-emotions-or-do-they-control-you/">Do you control your emotions or do they control you?</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-youve-broken-your-wedding-vows/">Have you broken your wedding vows?</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/spouse-attracted/">Attraction Survey</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2Ikq0ox">Conversation Starters Book</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/37-questions-for-spouses-to-ask-each-other-about-sex/">37 Questions for spouses to ask each other about sex</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/masturbation-problem-whether-youre-married-single/">Why solo masturbation is a problem if you're single</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/scheduled-sex-helpful-marriage/">Scheduling sex</a></li></ul></p><p>Want more podcast episodes to listen to? We're 79% of the way to the next goal, which will mean weekly podcasts. Did you know most of our supporters only give $5/month. Add your pocket change to help us meet our goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Analysis of our latest survey has started, and should be out soon. Don't want to miss it? Be sure to <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">join our mailing list</a>.</p>
SWM 040 – What happens to our souls when we have sex? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-040-what-happens-to-our-souls-when-we-have-sex/ Sun, 07 Apr 2019 22:28:17 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18642 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-040-what-happens-to-our-souls-when-we-have-sex/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-040-what-happens-to-our-souls-when-we-have-sex/feed/ 13

I was answering questions from February and March from our Have A Question page, and the answer to this one turned into it's own blog post and podcast episode because the question showed a common misunderstanding about what a soul is. Check out the show notes here.

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Some other updates:

We've added some new functionality to our supporter's forum. You can now email in topics to discuss, and can just reply to the notification emails to reply to threads. Our users are loving it and interactions are increasing, which is awesome.

Want more podcast episodes to listen to? We're 77% of the way to the next goal, which will mean weekly podcasts. Did you know most of our supporters only give $5/month. Add your pocket change to help us meet our goal. Check out our Support Us for more info.

Analysis of our latest survey has started, and should be out soon. Don't want to miss it? Be sure to join our mailing list.

Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call 1-833-719-0228 and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also text me.

A reader asks what happens to our souls when we have sex? This question betrays a common misunderstanding of what a soul is. Let's dig into what the Bible says. <p>I was answering questions from February and March from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page, and the answer to this one turned into it's own blog post and podcast episode because the question showed a common misunderstanding about what a soul is. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-040-what-happens-to-our-souls-when-we-have-sex/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Some other updates:</p><p>We've added some new functionality to our supporter's forum. You can now email in topics to discuss, and can just reply to the notification emails to reply to threads. Our users are loving it and interactions are increasing, which is awesome.</p><p>Want more podcast episodes to listen to? We're 77% of the way to the next goal, which will mean weekly podcasts. Did you know most of our supporters only give $5/month. Add your pocket change to help us meet our goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Analysis of our latest survey has started, and should be out soon. Don't want to miss it? Be sure to <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">join our mailing list</a>.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p> Jay Dee clean 22:51 <p>I was answering questions from February and March from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page, and the answer to this one turned into it's own blog post and podcast episode because the question showed a common misunderstanding about what a soul is. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-040-what-happens-to-our-souls-when-we-have-sex/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Some other updates:</p><p>We've added some new functionality to our supporter's forum. You can now email in topics to discuss, and can just reply to the notification emails to reply to threads. Our users are loving it and interactions are increasing, which is awesome.</p><p>Want more podcast episodes to listen to? We're 77% of the way to the next goal, which will mean weekly podcasts. Did you know most of our supporters only give $5/month. Add your pocket change to help us meet our goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Analysis of our latest survey has started, and should be out soon. Don't want to miss it? Be sure to <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">join our mailing list</a>.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p>
SWM 039 – Anonymous Questions from January 2019 – Part 3 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-039-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-3/ Sun, 31 Mar 2019 13:30:56 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18464 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-039-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-3/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-039-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-3/feed/ 10

This is the third and final part of our January anonymous questions from our Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here.

In this third and final part, we're tackling the subjects:

  • Sex drive and pregnancy
  • Can medications cause permanent sexual issues?
  • Low-drive husband's affair
  • Birth control options
  • Resources
  • Fisting
  • The banana question
  • Sex machines
  • Sex and being overweight
  • Sex in heaven
  • Tantric sex

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Some other updates:

We hit our first support goal! Our monthly contributions now exceed our expenses for the blog and podcast. As a thank you, I'll be doing monthly podcasts at least. Want more? Well, then you have to hit our next goal. Check out our Support Us for more info.

Our latest survey has hit 1,100 responses. I've started on the analysis and hope to have it out soon.

Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call 1-833-719-0228 and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also text me.

This is the third and final part of our January anonymous questions Have A Question page. If you heard the previous two parts of these questions, I was trying to sort the questions by topic. Today we’re tackling some questions about sex drive, <p>This is the third and final part of our January anonymous questions from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-039-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-3/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>In this third and final part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Sex drive and pregnancy</li><li>Can medications cause permanent sexual issues?</li><li>Low-drive husband's affair</li><li>Birth control options</li><li>Resources</li><li>Fisting</li><li>The banana question</li><li>Sex machines</li><li>Sex and being overweight</li><li>Sex in heaven</li><li>Tantric sex</li></ul></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p> Some other updates:</p><p>We hit our first support goal! Our monthly contributions now exceed our expenses for the blog and podcast. As a thank you, I'll be doing monthly podcasts at least. Want more? Well, then you have to hit our next goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Our latest survey has hit 1,100 responses. I've started on the analysis and hope to have it out soon.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p> Jay Dee clean 42:34 <p>This is the third and final part of our January anonymous questions from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-039-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-3/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>In this third and final part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Sex drive and pregnancy</li><li>Can medications cause permanent sexual issues?</li><li>Low-drive husband's affair</li><li>Birth control options</li><li>Resources</li><li>Fisting</li><li>The banana question</li><li>Sex machines</li><li>Sex and being overweight</li><li>Sex in heaven</li><li>Tantric sex</li></ul></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p> Some other updates:</p><p>We hit our first support goal! Our monthly contributions now exceed our expenses for the blog and podcast. As a thank you, I'll be doing monthly podcasts at least. Want more? Well, then you have to hit our next goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Our latest survey has hit 1,100 responses. I've started on the analysis and hope to have it out soon.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p>
SWM 038 – Anonymous Questions January 2019 – Part 2 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-038-anonymous-questions-january-2019-part-2/ Tue, 12 Mar 2019 20:43:45 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18402 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-038-anonymous-questions-january-2019-part-2/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-038-anonymous-questions-january-2019-part-2/feed/ 1

Back for part two of our anonymous reader's questions from January 2019 from our Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here.

In this second part, we're tackling the subjects:

  • Is hetero anal sex new?
  • Anal sex re-hash
  • Too large for anal?
  • Prostate massage
  • Felching
  • Factors in orgasm ability
  • Can women learn to ejaculate?
  • Can kegels lead to vaginal orgasms?
  • Can men be multiorgasmic?
  • How to learn to orgasm on command
  • Are my PC Muscles too strong?

If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Links to things we discussed:

Some other updates:

We hit our first support goal! Our monthly contributions now exceed our expenses for the blog and podcast. As a thank you, I'll be doing monthly podcasts at least. Want more? Well, then you have to hit our next goal. Check out our Support Us for more info.

Our latest survey has hit 1,000 responses, so I'll be doing the analysis as soon as I can. If you want to get your responses in before I do, fill it out here.

Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call 1-833-719-0228 and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also text me.

Topics Include: Is hetero anal sex new & other questions about anal sex. Factors in orgasm ability. Can women learn to ejaculate? Can kegels lead to vaginal orgasms? Can men be multi-orgasmic? Are my PC muscles too strong? <p>Back for part two of our anonymous reader's questions from January 2019 from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-038-anonymous-questions-january-2019-part-2/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>In this second part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Is hetero anal sex new?</li><li>Anal sex re-hash</li><li>Too large for anal?</li><li>Prostate massage</li><li>Felching</li><li>Factors in orgasm ability</li><li>Can women learn to ejaculate?</li><li>Can kegels lead to vaginal orgasms?</li><li>Can men be multiorgasmic?</li><li>How to learn to orgasm on command</li><li>Are my PC Muscles too strong?</li></ul></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Links to things we discussed:</p><p><ul><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2T3IfUf">The Key to Feminine Response in Marriage (book)</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2VjKwIp">The Act of Marriage (book)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/on-the-topic-of-edging/">Edging (post)</a></li><li><a href="https://marrieddance.com/shop/vibrators/clitoris-suckers/womanizer-deluxe-pro-w500-focused-clitoral-stimulator/?aff=5">The Womanizer (toy)</a></li></ul></p><p>Some other updates:</p><p>We hit our first support goal! Our monthly contributions now exceed our expenses for the blog and podcast. As a thank you, I'll be doing monthly podcasts at least. Want more? Well, then you have to hit our next goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Our latest survey has hit 1,000 responses, so I'll be doing the analysis as soon as I can. If you want to get your responses in before I do, <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/size-and-its-impact-on-sex-survey/">fill it out here</a>.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p> Jay Dee clean 28:53 <p>Back for part two of our anonymous reader's questions from January 2019 from our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-038-anonymous-questions-january-2019-part-2/">show notes here</a>.</p><p>In this second part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Is hetero anal sex new?</li><li>Anal sex re-hash</li><li>Too large for anal?</li><li>Prostate massage</li><li>Felching</li><li>Factors in orgasm ability</li><li>Can women learn to ejaculate?</li><li>Can kegels lead to vaginal orgasms?</li><li>Can men be multiorgasmic?</li><li>How to learn to orgasm on command</li><li>Are my PC Muscles too strong?</li></ul></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Links to things we discussed:</p><p><ul><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2T3IfUf">The Key to Feminine Response in Marriage (book)</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2VjKwIp">The Act of Marriage (book)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/on-the-topic-of-edging/">Edging (post)</a></li><li><a href="https://marrieddance.com/shop/vibrators/clitoris-suckers/womanizer-deluxe-pro-w500-focused-clitoral-stimulator/?aff=5">The Womanizer (toy)</a></li></ul></p><p>Some other updates:</p><p>We hit our first support goal! Our monthly contributions now exceed our expenses for the blog and podcast. As a thank you, I'll be doing monthly podcasts at least. Want more? Well, then you have to hit our next goal. Check out our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> for more info.</p><p>Our latest survey has hit 1,000 responses, so I'll be doing the analysis as soon as I can. If you want to get your responses in before I do, <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/size-and-its-impact-on-sex-survey/">fill it out here</a>.</p><p>Have a question, but don't want to send an email? Call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and leave me a voicemail. If you’re in the US, you can also <a href="tel:18337190228">text me</a>.</p>
SWM 037 – Anonymous Questions from January 2019 – Part 1 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-037-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-1/ Fri, 01 Mar 2019 02:25:58 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18324 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-037-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-1/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-037-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-1/feed/ 4

This podcast episode, I'm answer our reader's questions from January 2019. I got a ton of them, so it took me a while to write answers to all of them. However, there are so many I'm having to split it up across multiple episodes.

In this first part, we're tackling the subjects:

  • Should single people be reading this blog?
  • Mind-Reading
  • DIY Arousal Lube
  • Is it wrong to masturbate to get ready for sex?
  • Sex Routines
  • Sex Furniture
  • "Unwanted" Book

Some other updates:

I’ve changed some things around with respect to our support community. Until recently, I’d been using Patreon to handle all monthly contributions. Unfortunately, Patreon has gone and upset a fair number of people. So, I’ve changed our Support Us page to include a PayPal option - for those who would prefer not to be involved with Patreon.

Also, we have a new survey up. If you haven’t filled it out, please do so here.

Lastly, I’ve got a toll-free number! I thought it would be neat if people could leave voicemails of questions and I could include them in the podcast. That way you can listen to some other people’s lovely voices and not just mine all the time. So, if you have a question and would rather speak it than write it, call 1-833-719-0228.You can also just leave me a voicemail there too, even if it’s not a question.

If you’re in the US, you can also text 1-833-719-0228 and I’ll get it.

Well, here we are, another month nearly gone, and another pile of questions from our anonymous Have A Question page begging for answers. In fact, I got so many in January, it took me nearly all month to write answers for them, <p>This podcast episode, I'm answer our reader's questions from January 2019. I got a ton of them, so it took me a while to write answers to all of them. However, there are so many I'm having to split it up across multiple episodes.</p><p>In this first part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Should single people be reading this blog?</li><li>Mind-Reading</li><li>DIY Arousal Lube</li><li>Is it wrong to masturbate to get ready for sex?</li><li>Sex Routines</li><li>Sex Furniture</li><li>"Unwanted" Book</li></ul></p><p>Some other updates:</p><p>I’ve changed some things around with respect to our support community. Until recently, I’d been using Patreon to handle all monthly contributions. Unfortunately, Patreon has gone and upset a fair number of people. So, I’ve changed our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> page to include a PayPal option - for those who would prefer not to be involved with Patreon.</p><p>Also, we have a new survey up. If you haven’t filled it out, <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/size-and-its-impact-on-sex-survey/">please do so here</a>.</p><p>Lastly, I’ve got a toll-free number! I thought it would be neat if people could leave voicemails of questions and I could include them in the podcast. That way you can listen to some other people’s lovely voices and not just mine all the time. So, if you have a question and would rather speak it than write it, call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a>.You can also just leave me a voicemail there too, even if it’s not a question.</p><p>If you’re in the US, you can also text <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and I’ll get it.</p> Jay Dee clean 27:48 <p>This podcast episode, I'm answer our reader's questions from January 2019. I got a ton of them, so it took me a while to write answers to all of them. However, there are so many I'm having to split it up across multiple episodes.</p><p>In this first part, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>Should single people be reading this blog?</li><li>Mind-Reading</li><li>DIY Arousal Lube</li><li>Is it wrong to masturbate to get ready for sex?</li><li>Sex Routines</li><li>Sex Furniture</li><li>"Unwanted" Book</li></ul></p><p>Some other updates:</p><p>I’ve changed some things around with respect to our support community. Until recently, I’d been using Patreon to handle all monthly contributions. Unfortunately, Patreon has gone and upset a fair number of people. So, I’ve changed our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">Support Us</a> page to include a PayPal option - for those who would prefer not to be involved with Patreon.</p><p>Also, we have a new survey up. If you haven’t filled it out, <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/size-and-its-impact-on-sex-survey/">please do so here</a>.</p><p>Lastly, I’ve got a toll-free number! I thought it would be neat if people could leave voicemails of questions and I could include them in the podcast. That way you can listen to some other people’s lovely voices and not just mine all the time. So, if you have a question and would rather speak it than write it, call <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a>.You can also just leave me a voicemail there too, even if it’s not a question.</p><p>If you’re in the US, you can also text <a href="tel:18337190228">1-833-719-0228</a> and I’ll get it.</p>
SWM036 – Sexy Memory Foreplay Game https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm036-sexy-memory-foreplay-game/ Tue, 12 Feb 2019 21:25:28 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=18130 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm036-sexy-memory-foreplay-game/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm036-sexy-memory-foreplay-game/feed/ 0 Looking for a fun and sexy gift for Valentine's Day? Check out our new printable: Sexy Memory - Foreplay Game On sale now until Valentine's Day. Download it today and have it printed and ready tonight. 60 different activities to choose from so you can play at your comfort level. Been getting a ton of great feedback from both husbands and wives. Some like that it forces them to slow down and lets them get really aroused. Others just like that it includes sex :) If you're already one of our monthly supporters, check your inbox for a coupon code. Don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss out our next round of anonymous questions. If you have a question you'd like answered, you can ask it anonymously here. Did you ever play the game "memory" or "concentration" as a child or maybe with your children? Or maybe you new it by another name. You put cards or tiles face down on the table and took turns turning them over, trying to find matches. Looking for a fun and sexy gift for Valentine's Day? <br /> <br /> Check out our new printable: <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/sexy-memory-printable/">Sexy Memory - Foreplay Game</a><br /> On sale now until Valentine's Day.<br /> <br /> Download it today and have it printed and ready tonight. 60 different activities to choose from so you can play at your comfort level.<br /> Been getting a ton of great feedback from both husbands and wives. Some like that it forces them to slow down and lets them get really aroused. Others just like that it includes sex :)<br /> <br /> If you're already one of our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">monthly supporters</a>, check your inbox for a coupon code.<br /> <br /> Don't forget to <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">subscribe</a> so you don't miss out our next round of anonymous questions. If you have a question you'd like answered, you can <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question/">ask it anonymously here</a>. Jay Dee clean 4:00 Looking for a fun and sexy gift for Valentine's Day? <br /> <br /> Check out our new printable: <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/sexy-memory-printable/">Sexy Memory - Foreplay Game</a><br /> On sale now until Valentine's Day.<br /> <br /> Download it today and have it printed and ready tonight. 60 different activities to choose from so you can play at your comfort level.<br /> Been getting a ton of great feedback from both husbands and wives. Some like that it forces them to slow down and lets them get really aroused. Others just like that it includes sex :)<br /> <br /> If you're already one of our <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">monthly supporters</a>, check your inbox for a coupon code.<br /> <br /> Don't forget to <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/subscribe">subscribe</a> so you don't miss out our next round of anonymous questions. If you have a question you'd like answered, you can <a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question/">ask it anonymously here</a>. SWM035 – Anonymous Questions from December 2018 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/ Tue, 15 Jan 2019 22:40:19 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=17933 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/feed/ 5

This podcast episode, I'm catching up on some listener's questions that I got back in 2018.

You can find the complete questions and answers at https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/

Topics include:

  1. ED due to medical problems
  2. Husband in erotic chatrooms
  3. Sex toys caused sexual awakening
  4. List of books for continued learning
  5. Double standard on the blog
  6. Positions
  7. Anal sex in Song of Solomon
  8. Sexy underwear for men
  9. Hypnosis
  10. Is it wrong to masturbate if you don't have an orgasm during sex?
  11. Why there is nothing new on the blog
  12. How to ask a potential spouse if they like oral sex
  13. Orgasming on command

If you have a question you'd like to have answered, check out our Have A Question page at UncoveringIntimacy.com

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It’s been a busy couple of months for our Have A Question page, so I thought I’d get some of these answers out so they don’t pile up too much. If you have a question you’d like answered anonymously, you can ask it there, <p>This podcast episode, I'm catching up on some listener's questions that I got back in 2018.</p><br /> <p>You can find the complete questions and answers at <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/">https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/</a></p><br /> <p>Topics include:<br /> <ol><br /> <li>ED due to medical problems</li><br /> <li>Husband in erotic chatrooms</li><br /> <li>Sex toys caused sexual awakening</li><br /> <li>List of books for continued learning</li><br /> <li>Double standard on the blog</li><br /> <li>Positions</li><br /> <li>Anal sex in Song of Solomon</li><br /> <li>Sexy underwear for men</li><br /> <li>Hypnosis</li><br /> <li>Is it wrong to masturbate if you don't have an orgasm during sex?</li><br /> <li>Why there is nothing new on the blog</li><br /> <li>How to ask a potential spouse if they like oral sex</li><br /> <li>Orgasming on command</li><br /> </ol><br /> </p><br /> <p><b>If you have a question you'd like to have answered, check out our <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question/">Have A Question</a> page at UncoveringIntimacy.com</b></p><br /> <p>Find us on<br /> <ul><br /> <li><a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">Patreon</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/UncoveringIntimacy/">Facebook</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/uncoveringintimacy/">Instagram</a></li><br /> <li><a href="http://twitter.com/uncoveringlove">Twitter</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.pinterest.ca/uncoveringlove/boards/">Pinterest</a></li><br /> </ul><br /> Or <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/podcastsubscribe/">subscribe to our newsletter</a> to get all the info.<br /> </p> Jay Dee clean 1:01:28 <p>This podcast episode, I'm catching up on some listener's questions that I got back in 2018.</p><br /> <p>You can find the complete questions and answers at <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/">https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/</a></p><br /> <p>Topics include:<br /> <ol><br /> <li>ED due to medical problems</li><br /> <li>Husband in erotic chatrooms</li><br /> <li>Sex toys caused sexual awakening</li><br /> <li>List of books for continued learning</li><br /> <li>Double standard on the blog</li><br /> <li>Positions</li><br /> <li>Anal sex in Song of Solomon</li><br /> <li>Sexy underwear for men</li><br /> <li>Hypnosis</li><br /> <li>Is it wrong to masturbate if you don't have an orgasm during sex?</li><br /> <li>Why there is nothing new on the blog</li><br /> <li>How to ask a potential spouse if they like oral sex</li><br /> <li>Orgasming on command</li><br /> </ol><br /> </p><br /> <p><b>If you have a question you'd like to have answered, check out our <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question/">Have A Question</a> page at UncoveringIntimacy.com</b></p><br /> <p>Find us on<br /> <ul><br /> <li><a href="https://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">Patreon</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/UncoveringIntimacy/">Facebook</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/uncoveringintimacy/">Instagram</a></li><br /> <li><a href="http://twitter.com/uncoveringlove">Twitter</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.pinterest.ca/uncoveringlove/boards/">Pinterest</a></li><br /> </ul><br /> Or <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/podcastsubscribe/">subscribe to our newsletter</a> to get all the info.<br /> </p>
SWM034 – Limited Time offer – Intimacy Advent Calendar https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm034-limited-time-offer-intimacy-advent-calendar/ Fri, 30 Nov 2018 03:45:49 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=17397 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm034-limited-time-offer-intimacy-advent-calendar/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm034-limited-time-offer-intimacy-advent-calendar/feed/ 0 This is just a quick podcast episode to let my listeners know about our Intimacy Advent Calendar currently for sale in our shop. You remember having advent calendars as a kid? Every day you get a chocolate, or a toy or something. For nearly a whole month, every day there was something exciting to look forward to the next day. Holidays don’t exactly feel that way for us adults anymore do they? Well, I wanted to try and recapture that feeling. At the same time, I know many couples struggle to maintain intimacy during the holidays. Not just physical intimacy (but that too), but it’s also a high-point for arguments and blow-outs. So, I wanted to make something that encouraged us to draw together during this season. So, I put together an Advent Calendar for couples. It took me a while to figure out how to manage things like visitations, big dinners, people’s differing boundaries and comfort levels around certain sexual activities, travel, and even periods. But, I think I found a fairly elegant solution. Check out the product here for more info: https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/intimacy-advent-calendar/ Only available until Dec 2. You remember having advent calendars as a kid? Every day you get a chocolate, or a toy or something. For nearly a whole month, every day there was something exciting to look forward to the next day. Holidays don’t exactly feel that way for us adults a... This is just a quick podcast episode to let my listeners know about our Intimacy Advent Calendar currently for sale in our shop.<br /> <br /> You remember having advent calendars as a kid? Every day you get a chocolate, or a toy or something. For nearly a whole month, every day there was something exciting to look forward to the next day.<br /> <br /> Holidays don’t exactly feel that way for us adults anymore do they? Well, I wanted to try and recapture that feeling.<br /> <br /> At the same time, I know many couples struggle to maintain intimacy during the holidays. Not just physical intimacy (but that too), but it’s also a high-point for arguments and blow-outs. So, I wanted to make something that encouraged us to draw together during this season.<br /> <br /> So, I put together an Advent Calendar for couples. It took me a while to figure out how to manage things like visitations, big dinners, people’s differing boundaries and comfort levels around certain sexual activities, travel, and even periods. But, I think I found a fairly elegant solution.<br /> <br /> Check out the product here for more info: https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/intimacy-advent-calendar/<br /> <br /> Only available until Dec 2. Jay Dee clean 7:24 SWM033 – Sermon – Sex: An uncomfortable topic we need to discuss https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm033-sermon-sex-an-uncomfortable-topic-we-need-to-discuss/ Wed, 20 Jun 2018 02:22:18 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=16544 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm033-sermon-sex-an-uncomfortable-topic-we-need-to-discuss/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm033-sermon-sex-an-uncomfortable-topic-we-need-to-discuss/feed/ 14 This is the audio recording of the sermon I preached in my home church about sex. You can get the full transcript on the website. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community. This podcast episode is a sermon I wrote and delivered in my home church while the pastors were away and I was invited to preach.  I'm not a pastor myself, but occasionally I am asked to step in while they are away. This is the audio recording of the sermon I preached in my home church about sex. You can get the full transcript on the website.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community. Jay Dee clean 43:49 SWM032 – Is oral sex unsanitary? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm032-is-oral-sex-unsanitary/ Wed, 23 May 2018 21:53:47 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=16281 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm032-is-oral-sex-unsanitary/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm032-is-oral-sex-unsanitary/feed/ 10 Today I'm talking about oral sex and whether or not it's sanitary. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community. Reader’s Question: The question I have is concerning oral sex and whether it is "sanitary" or not,especially concerning cunnilingus, but also fellatio. I would love to go down on my wife, but she has a belief that she is "dirty" down there. Today I'm talking about oral sex and whether or not it's sanitary.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community. Jay Dee clean 16:26 SWM031 – How to help your husband be more assertive in bed https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/how-to-help-your-husband-be-more-assertive-in-bed/ Wed, 18 Apr 2018 23:58:39 +0000 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=15883 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/how-to-help-your-husband-be-more-assertive-in-bed/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/how-to-help-your-husband-be-more-assertive-in-bed/feed/ 0 I have a lot of wives coming to me asking how to get their husband to be more assertive in bed.  The problem is, our society and culture have taught men to be more submissive, and take a back seat with regard to sex.  We're either explicitly or implicitly taught that we should let the woman lead in the physical relationship. The problem is that many married women don't want that.  They want a husband who is assertive and confident, not waiting for his wife to make the first move and anxious. So, this podcast is about how to help your husband to be more assertive in the bedroom, because while I can tell men all day to be more confident, the truth is, a lot of it has to do with how his wife responds. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community. I have a lot of wives coming to me asking how to get their husband to be more assertive in bed.  The problem is, our society and culture have taught men to be more submissive, and take a back seat with regard to sex. I have a lot of wives coming to me asking how to get their husband to be more assertive in bed.  The problem is, our society and culture have taught men to be more submissive, and take a back seat with regard to sex.  We're either explicitly or implicitly taught that we should let the woman lead in the physical relationship.<br /> <br /> The problem is that many married women don't want that.  They want a husband who is assertive and confident, not waiting for his wife to make the first move and anxious.<br /> <br /> So, this podcast is about how to help your husband to be more assertive in the bedroom, because while I can tell men all day to be more confident, the truth is, a lot of it has to do with how his wife responds.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community. Jay Dee clean 23:56 SWM030 – Credentials, sex and sickness, falling out of love, self control and how to start leading https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm030-credentials-sex-and-sickness-falling-out-of-love-self-control-and-how-to-start-leading/ Sat, 01 Apr 2017 00:51:18 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=11936 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm030-credentials-sex-and-sickness-falling-out-of-love-self-control-and-how-to-start-leading/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm030-credentials-sex-and-sickness-falling-out-of-love-self-control-and-how-to-start-leading/feed/ 2 Today I'm answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so.  This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven't been. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community. Today I'm answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so.  This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, Today I'm answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so.  This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven't been.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community. Jay Dee clean 27:15 SWM029 – Fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm029-fantasy-affairs-anal-sex-golden-showers-work-during-sex-and-and-low-drives/ Sat, 25 Mar 2017 00:23:44 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=11885 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm029-fantasy-affairs-anal-sex-golden-showers-work-during-sex-and-and-low-drives/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm029-fantasy-affairs-anal-sex-golden-showers-work-during-sex-and-and-low-drives/feed/ 9 This episode, I'm answering anonymous questions we've received about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community. Episode 29. Today we're answering questions about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low sex drives. This episode, I'm answering anonymous questions we've received about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community. Jay Dee clean 29:43 SWM028 – Answering questions about oral sex before marriage, joint bank accounts, toys, dirty talking and grooming https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm028-answering-questions-about-oral-sex-before-marriage-joint-bank-accounts-toys-dirty-talking-and-grooming/ Sat, 18 Mar 2017 00:54:18 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=11790 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm028-answering-questions-about-oral-sex-before-marriage-joint-bank-accounts-toys-dirty-talking-and-grooming/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm028-answering-questions-about-oral-sex-before-marriage-joint-bank-accounts-toys-dirty-talking-and-grooming/feed/ 0 I'm changing up the format of the podcast a bit this week and answering some reader questions. I'm changing up the format of the podcast a bit this week and answering some reader questions. I'm changing up the format of the podcast a bit this week and answering some reader questions. Jay Dee clean 17:26 Still looking for the perfect Valentine’s Gift? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/still-looking-for-the-perfect-valentines-gift/ Sun, 12 Feb 2017 16:24:45 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=11336 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/still-looking-for-the-perfect-valentines-gift/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/still-looking-for-the-perfect-valentines-gift/feed/ 2 Looking for the perfect Valentine's Day gift that will continue to around for years to come? Something that's sexy without being sexual? Check out Melt. Tuesday is Valentine's Day.  Does that thought terrify you?  I'll admit, Valentine's Day sort of snuck up on me this year. But, I have the perfect last-minute gift for you. Looking for the perfect Valentine's Day gift that will continue to around for years to come? Something that's sexy without being sexual? Check out Melt. Jay Dee clean 4:00 SWM026: Last Minute Father’s Day Gift Ideas https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm026-last-minute-fathers-day-gift-ideas/ Fri, 17 Jun 2016 21:10:15 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=7308 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm026-last-minute-fathers-day-gift-ideas/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm026-last-minute-fathers-day-gift-ideas/feed/ 0 Father's Day is this Sunday, and I thought we'd share some last-minute Father's Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast.  We've got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an investment, but all of them you can manage to pull off even the day before Father's Day. Father's Day is this Sunday, and I thought we'd share some last-minute Father's Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast.  We've got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an investment, Father's Day is this Sunday, and I thought we'd share some last-minute Father's Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast.  We've got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an investment, but all of them you can manage to pull off even the day before Father's Day. Jay Dee clean 9:01 SWM025: Preparing for Mother’s Day https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm025-preparing-mothers-day/ Fri, 06 May 2016 11:00:27 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=6612 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm025-preparing-mothers-day/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm025-preparing-mothers-day/feed/ 2 Mother's Day is coming up this Sunday, so thought I'd talk briefly about why father's should celebrate Mother's Day in honour of their wives.  And today, my wife, Christina, has made the time to join me on this episode.  Sort of to make up for the ones I missed recently.  So, here we go. Mother's Day is coming up this Sunday, so thought I'd talk briefly about why father's should celebrate Mother's Day in honour of their wives.  And today, my wife, Christina, has made the time to join me on this episode. Mother's Day is coming up this Sunday, so thought I'd talk briefly about why father's should celebrate Mother's Day in honour of their wives.  And today, my wife, Christina, has made the time to join me on this episode.  Sort of to make up for the ones I missed recently.  So, here we go. Jay Dee clean 9:46 SWM024: Why Do Men Think Sex is a Reward? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm024-men-think-sex-reward/ Wed, 13 Apr 2016 17:10:45 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=6307 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm024-men-think-sex-reward/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm024-men-think-sex-reward/feed/ 7 Often men see sex as a reward, even when it's not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don't have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is this?  I think there are three reasons: Hormones - specifically dopamine, the "reward" hormone. Society - We're taught that sex = winning Sex is a big part of being male Often men see sex as a reward, even when it's not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don't have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is this?  I think there are three reasons. Often men see sex as a reward, even when it's not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don't have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is this?  I think there are three reasons:<br /> <br /> Hormones - specifically dopamine, the "reward" hormone.<br /> Society - We're taught that sex = winning<br /> Sex is a big part of being male Jay Dee clean 12:17 SWM023: It’s all about the relationship https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm023-its-all-about-the-relationship/ Wed, 06 Apr 2016 11:00:59 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=6121 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm023-its-all-about-the-relationship/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm023-its-all-about-the-relationship/feed/ 2 The Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God's relationship with us many times.  I think there's a good reason for it.  In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all the do's and don'ts, both in marriage, and in the Bible, point to one thing: the relationship.  Not that the rules are unimportant, or are not valuable, but that the underlying relationship is far more so.  In fact, if we focus on the relationship, on our love for the other person, then all the rules, the guidelines, the do's and don'ts, will happen all on their own. The Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God's relationship with us many times.  I think there's a good reason for it.  In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all the do's and don'ts, both in marriage, and in the Bible, The Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God's relationship with us many times.  I think there's a good reason for it.  In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all the do's and don'ts, both in marriage, and in the Bible, point to one thing: the relationship.  Not that the rules are unimportant, or are not valuable, but that the underlying relationship is far more so.  In fact, if we focus on the relationship, on our love for the other person, then all the rules, the guidelines, the do's and don'ts, will happen all on their own. Jay Dee clean 18:22 SWM022: Does my spouse find me unattractive https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm022-spouse-find-unattractive/ Wed, 30 Mar 2016 11:00:43 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5895 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm022-spouse-find-unattractive/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm022-spouse-find-unattractive/feed/ 3 A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn't asked him.  She had no indication that he wasn't, but she had this deep seated fear that he wasn't. So, I ran a survey, asking spouses about their attraction to their husband or wife.  And today I thought I'd share some of results with you, to help anyone else who has the same fears. A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn't asked him.  She had no indication that he wasn't, A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn't asked him.  She had no indication that he wasn't, but she had this deep seated fear that he wasn't.<br /> <br /> So, I ran a survey, asking spouses about their attraction to their husband or wife.  And today I thought I'd share some of results with you, to help anyone else who has the same fears. Jay Dee clean 12:38 SWM021: Spice Jar https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm021-spice-jar/ Wed, 23 Mar 2016 11:00:03 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5723 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm021-spice-jar/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm021-spice-jar/feed/ 0 I didn't have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar - A printable game to help you change things up in the bedroom tonight. I didn't have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar - A printable game to help you ... I didn't have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar - A printable game to help you change things up in the bedroom tonight. Jay Dee clean 4:43 SWM020: 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm020-7-dirty-fighting-techniques-not-exist-marriage/ Wed, 16 Mar 2016 11:00:48 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5487 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm020-7-dirty-fighting-techniques-not-exist-marriage/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm020-7-dirty-fighting-techniques-not-exist-marriage/feed/ 8 I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn't bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy.  Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person's perspective, to seek unselfish solutions.  But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging.  Today I'm going to share with you 7 damaging conflict behaviours that you might recognize in your marriage.  If any of these ring a bell, you need to start working to rid yourself of them in your relationship. I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn't bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy. I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn't bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy.  Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person's perspective, to seek unselfish solutions.  But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging.  Today I'm going to share with you 7 damaging conflict behaviours that you might recognize in your marriage.  If any of these ring a bell, you need to start working to rid yourself of them in your relationship. Jay Dee clean 14:02 SWM019: How long does a sexual awakening take? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm019-long-sexual-awakening-take/ Wed, 09 Mar 2016 12:00:29 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5455 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm019-long-sexual-awakening-take/#respond https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm019-long-sexual-awakening-take/feed/ 0 Sexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change.  However, just because there is often a single instant where this realization becomes clear, it can take time, sometimes years or decades, to actually change their behaviour. Sexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change.  However, just because there is often a single instant where this realizat... Sexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change.  However, just because there is often a single instant where this realization becomes clear, it can take time, sometimes years or decades, to actually change their behaviour. Jay Dee clean 10:27 SWM018: Judaism had it right all along https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm018-judaism-right-along/ Wed, 02 Mar 2016 12:00:31 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5418 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm018-judaism-right-along/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm018-judaism-right-along/feed/ 14 Let's face it, Christianity is not the perfect religion we like to make it out to be.  At least, not the way we imperfect humans play it out in our lives.  And one area of life that we've really made a mess of over the centuries is sexuality.  In this facet of life, Judaism seems to have gotten it right, and I think we should have paid more attention to them. Let's face it, Christianity is not the perfect religion we like to make it out to be.  At least, not the way we imperfect humans play it out in our lives.  And one area of life that we've really made a mess of over the centuries is sexuality. Let's face it, Christianity is not the perfect religion we like to make it out to be.  At least, not the way we imperfect humans play it out in our lives.  And one area of life that we've really made a mess of over the centuries is sexuality.  In this facet of life, Judaism seems to have gotten it right, and I think we should have paid more attention to them. Jay Dee clean 18:16 SWM017: 8 Things I don’t want to admit as a Christian Marriage Podcaster https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm017-8-things-dont-want-admit-christian-marriage-podcaster/ Wed, 24 Feb 2016 12:00:52 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5364 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm017-8-things-dont-want-admit-christian-marriage-podcaster/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm017-8-things-dont-want-admit-christian-marriage-podcaster/feed/ 2 A few years ago, I wrote a post called 16 Confessions of a Marriage Sex Blogger.  In it I shared a bunch of things that I thought might be interesting to people, to sort of help my community get to know me a bit more.  Today I'm going to take a slightly different direction and share with you 8 things that I don't want to admit as a Christian Marriage Podcaster.  While these might help you get to know me more, I'm also wanting to show you how to be transparent, to show you that it's okay to share potentially embarrassing things.  If I can share these with you, then surely you can share even deeper things with your spouse.  So, here we go. A few years ago, I wrote a post called 16 Confessions of a Marriage Sex Blogger.  In it I shared a bunch of things that I thought might be interesting to people, to sort of help my community get to know me a bit more. A few years ago, I wrote a post called 16 Confessions of a Marriage Sex Blogger.  In it I shared a bunch of things that I thought might be interesting to people, to sort of help my community get to know me a bit more.  Today I'm going to take a slightly different direction and share with you 8 things that I don't want to admit as a Christian Marriage Podcaster.  While these might help you get to know me more, I'm also wanting to show you how to be transparent, to show you that it's okay to share potentially embarrassing things.  If I can share these with you, then surely you can share even deeper things with your spouse.  So, here we go. Jay Dee clean 30:15 SWM016: What being the head of the household means to me https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm016-what-being-the-head-of-the-household-means-to-me/ Wed, 17 Feb 2016 13:22:21 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5349 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm016-what-being-the-head-of-the-household-means-to-me/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm016-what-being-the-head-of-the-household-means-to-me/feed/ 4 These days, standing up and saying that your the head of your household can be a bit dangerous for men.  With gender equality so strong in our society, the idea of gender roles is often scoffed at,  looked own upon.  I've heard many people say that patriarchy is just an excuse for men to do what they want, when they want.  I don't see it that way.  Here's what being the head of the household means to me. These days, standing up and saying that your the head of your household can be a bit dangerous for men.  With gender equality so strong in our society, the idea of gender roles is often scoffed at,  looked own upon. These days, standing up and saying that your the head of your household can be a bit dangerous for men.  With gender equality so strong in our society, the idea of gender roles is often scoffed at,  looked own upon.  I've heard many people say that patriarchy is just an excuse for men to do what they want, when they want.  I don't see it that way.  Here's what being the head of the household means to me. Jay Dee clean 17:07 SWM015: Valentine’s Day Dangers https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm015-valentines-day-dangers/ Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:00:09 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5302 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm015-valentines-day-dangers/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm015-valentines-day-dangers/feed/ 7 Valentine's day is just around the corner.  Only a few days left in fact.  If that started to make you sweat, well, I feel for you.  Valentine's Day, I think, is potentially one of the most dangerous days of the year for married couples.  I'll explain what I mean, and then give a couple tips for how to survive it. Valentine's day is just around the corner.  Only a few days left in fact.  If that started to make you sweat, well, I feel for you.  Valentine's Day, I think, is potentially one of the most dangerous days of the year for married couples. Valentine's day is just around the corner.  Only a few days left in fact.  If that started to make you sweat, well, I feel for you.  Valentine's Day, I think, is potentially one of the most dangerous days of the year for married couples.  I'll explain what I mean, and then give a couple tips for how to survive it. Jay Dee clean 11:40 SWM014: Your sex life has far reaching implications https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm014-your-sex-life-has-far-reaching-implications/ Wed, 03 Feb 2016 12:00:48 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5276 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm014-your-sex-life-has-far-reaching-implications/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm014-your-sex-life-has-far-reaching-implications/feed/ 1 Men are often accused of compartmentalized lives, and for the most part it's true.  Most of us can have our work life and our home life and our church life and our sports/hobbies life, and keep them all fairly contained.  Women, on the other hand, tend to have one life, and it all mixes together.  However, there is one aspect of life that men often find very difficult to compartmentalize: their sex life. Men are often accused of compartmentalized lives, and for the most part it's true.  Most of us can have our work life and our home life and our church life and our sports/hobbies life, and keep them all fairly contained.  Women, on the other hand, Men are often accused of compartmentalized lives, and for the most part it's true.  Most of us can have our work life and our home life and our church life and our sports/hobbies life, and keep them all fairly contained.  Women, on the other hand, tend to have one life, and it all mixes together.  However, there is one aspect of life that men often find very difficult to compartmentalize: their sex life. Jay Dee clean 18:22 SWM013: Morning Sex https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm013-morning-sex/ Wed, 27 Jan 2016 21:58:17 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5220 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm013-morning-sex/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm013-morning-sex/feed/ 8 This week, I'm talking about morning sex, that is sex when you first wake up.  Why discuss morning sex?  Because there's a lot going on that people don't realize I think.  I often get asked "why does my husband want sex in the morning?" and so if you ever had that question, or if you're a husband and are curious why you want sex in the morning, here's your change to find out why. This week, I'm talking about morning sex, that is sex when you first wake up.  Why discuss morning sex?  Because there's a lot going on that people don't realize I think.  I often get asked "why does my husband want sex in the morning? This week, I'm talking about morning sex, that is sex when you first wake up.  Why discuss morning sex?  Because there's a lot going on that people don't realize I think.  I often get asked "why does my husband want sex in the morning?" and so if you ever had that question, or if you're a husband and are curious why you want sex in the morning, here's your change to find out why. Jay Dee clean 11:53 SWM012: Why do married men masturbate? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm012-married-men-masturbate/ Thu, 21 Jan 2016 03:14:19 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5190 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm012-married-men-masturbate/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm012-married-men-masturbate/feed/ 31 I wrote a post on this topic a few years ago and thought I'd do a podcast version for those who don't read the blog, or are new and aren't aware of my older posts.  I believe married men (or women) masturbate for three reasons: Ignorance, Selfishness and/or Addiction. I wrote a post on this topic a few years ago and thought I'd do a podcast version for those who don't read the blog, or are new and aren't aware of my older posts.  I believe married men (or women) masturbate for three reasons: Ignorance, I wrote a post on this topic a few years ago and thought I'd do a podcast version for those who don't read the blog, or are new and aren't aware of my older posts.  I believe married men (or women) masturbate for three reasons: Ignorance, Selfishness and/or Addiction. Jay Dee clean 17:51 SWM011: How to train your spouse https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm011-how-to-train-a-spouse/ Wed, 13 Jan 2016 22:33:04 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5153 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm011-how-to-train-a-spouse/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm011-how-to-train-a-spouse/feed/ 1 This week we're discussing how you train your spouse.  In all human relationships, we teach other's how to interact with us.  Sometimes it's positive, sometimes it's not.  But, often we don't think about it and then we are surprised by the results of our training. My wife and I trained each other horribly in the years of our marriage and spent years undoing those bad teachings.  But, you can't start unless you understand what's going on. This week we're discussing how you train your spouse.  In all human relationships, we teach other's how to interact with us.  Sometimes it's positive, sometimes it's not.  But, often we don't think about it and then we are surprised by the results of o... This week we're discussing how you train your spouse.  In all human relationships, we teach other's how to interact with us.  Sometimes it's positive, sometimes it's not.  But, often we don't think about it and then we are surprised by the results of our training.<br /> <br /> My wife and I trained each other horribly in the years of our marriage and spent years undoing those bad teachings.  But, you can't start unless you understand what's going on. Jay Dee clean 15:38 SWM010: All you want is sex https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm010-all-you-want-is-sex/ Wed, 06 Jan 2016 20:05:43 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=5113 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm010-all-you-want-is-sex/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm010-all-you-want-is-sex/feed/ 2 For the first half of our marriage, I heard from my wife many times "All you want is sex", because sex was probably the biggest are of conflict in our marriage.  Since then, I've seen it many times in emails and comments from lower drive spouses, or from the high drive spouses complaining about the complaints of their low drive spouse. Some of them are accused of being obsessed with sex, some believe that it's their sinful nature that's causing the desire, some think it's a character deficit to be overcome, and, sadly, I've heard too often from high-drive spouses "I wish God would take this desire away from me". For the first half of our marriage, I heard from my wife many times "All you want is sex", because sex was probably the biggest are of conflict in our marriage.  Since then, I've seen it many times in emails and comments from lower drive spouses, For the first half of our marriage, I heard from my wife many times "All you want is sex", because sex was probably the biggest are of conflict in our marriage.  Since then, I've seen it many times in emails and comments from lower drive spouses, or from the high drive spouses complaining about the complaints of their low drive spouse.<br /> <br /> Some of them are accused of being obsessed with sex, some believe that it's their sinful nature that's causing the desire, some think it's a character deficit to be overcome, and, sadly, I've heard too often from high-drive spouses "I wish God would take this desire away from me". Jay Dee clean 14:54 SWM009: How to keep spicing up your sex life https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm009-keep-spicing-sex-life/ Wed, 30 Dec 2015 18:02:55 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4917 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm009-keep-spicing-sex-life/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm009-keep-spicing-sex-life/feed/ 4 Every marriage blog and podcast has a post or an episode telling you how to spice up your sex life, if not dozens of such posts.  But, they're usually just short term tricks, something to get you excited for a night or two, but then die off quickly.  However, they all have one thing in common, and that, I think, is to the real way to spice up your sex life.  So, in this episode, we're going to talk about how to continuously spice up your sex life, to have a longer lasting effect on your marriage. Every marriage blog and podcast has a post or an episode telling you how to spice up your sex life, if not dozens of such posts.  But, they're usually just short term tricks, something to get you excited for a night or two, but then die off quickly. Every marriage blog and podcast has a post or an episode telling you how to spice up your sex life, if not dozens of such posts.  But, they're usually just short term tricks, something to get you excited for a night or two, but then die off quickly.  However, they all have one thing in common, and that, I think, is to the real way to spice up your sex life.  So, in this episode, we're going to talk about how to continuously spice up your sex life, to have a longer lasting effect on your marriage. Jay Dee clean 14:27 SWM008: Dealing with Christmas in Marriage https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm008-dealing-christmas-marriage/ Wed, 23 Dec 2015 17:08:20 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4829 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm008-dealing-christmas-marriage/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm008-dealing-christmas-marriage/feed/ 2 Well, Christmas is nearly upon us, and every Christmas I know there is a lot of stress and anxiety as well as sometimes difficult living arrangements during the holidays, with family over, or you over at family, so this week we're going to talk about dealing with Christmas in a marriage. Well, Christmas is nearly upon us, and every Christmas I know there is a lot of stress and anxiety as well as sometimes difficult living arrangements during the holidays, with family over, or you over at family, Well, Christmas is nearly upon us, and every Christmas I know there is a lot of stress and anxiety as well as sometimes difficult living arrangements during the holidays, with family over, or you over at family, so this week we're going to talk about dealing with Christmas in a marriage. Jay Dee clean 11:53 SWM007: Spiritual Intimacy – Praying with your spouse https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm007-spiritual-intimacy-praying-with-your-spouse/ Wed, 16 Dec 2015 19:21:18 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4813 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm007-spiritual-intimacy-praying-with-your-spouse/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm007-spiritual-intimacy-praying-with-your-spouse/feed/ 5 Today's episode it about praying with your spouse to increase intimacy in your marriage.  Often prayer is a level of intimacy many are scared to step into.  But, getting past the initial obstacle means opening up your marriage to a whole new level of intimacy, which can in turn spur other areas of intimacy forward. Today's episode it about praying with your spouse to increase intimacy in your marriage.  Often prayer is a level of intimacy many are scared to step into.  But, getting past the initial obstacle means opening up your marriage to a whole new level of i... Today's episode it about praying with your spouse to increase intimacy in your marriage.  Often prayer is a level of intimacy many are scared to step into.  But, getting past the initial obstacle means opening up your marriage to a whole new level of intimacy, which can in turn spur other areas of intimacy forward. Jay Dee clean 13:40 SWM006: The problem with breastfeeding https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm006-the-problem-with-breastfeeding/ Wed, 09 Dec 2015 11:00:55 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4764 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm006-the-problem-with-breastfeeding/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm006-the-problem-with-breastfeeding/feed/ 12 This week I'm going to be discussing a problem common to many husbands with new babies: the fact that their wife's breasts have been re-purposed. This week I'm going to be discussing a problem common to many husbands with new babies: the fact that their wife's breasts have been re-purposed. Show Notes Introduction A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, This week I'm going to be discussing a problem common to many husbands with new babies: the fact that their wife's breasts have been re-purposed. Jay Dee clean 12:53 SWM005: Why your husband can’t tell you what he needs https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm005-why-your-husband-cant-tell-you-what-he-needs/ Wed, 02 Dec 2015 11:00:50 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4720 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm005-why-your-husband-cant-tell-you-what-he-needs/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm005-why-your-husband-cant-tell-you-what-he-needs/feed/ 5 In this episode I answer the question "Why can't my husband just tell me what he needs?"  It's basically the other side of last week's episode. In this episode I answer the question "Why can't my husband just tell me what he needs?"  It's basically the other side of last week's episode. Show Notes Introduction Men in generally have trouble expressing needs, In this episode I answer the question "Why can't my husband just tell me what he needs?"  It's basically the other side of last week's episode. Jay Dee clean 15:21 SWM004: Why your wife can’t tell you what she wants https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm004-why-your-wife-cant-tell-you-what-she-wants/ Wed, 25 Nov 2015 18:04:33 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4702 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm004-why-your-wife-cant-tell-you-what-she-wants/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm004-why-your-wife-cant-tell-you-what-she-wants/feed/ 8 In this episode I answer the question I get from so many husbands: Why can't my wife just tell me what she wants?  This used to drive me crazy earlier in my marriage, until I figured out the answer.  Now I see it as an opportunity, instead of a frustration. In this episode I answer the question I get from so many husbands: Why can't my wife just tell me what she wants?  This used to drive me crazy earlier in my marriage, until I figured out the answer.  Now I see it as an opportunity, In this episode I answer the question I get from so many husbands: Why can't my wife just tell me what she wants?  This used to drive me crazy earlier in my marriage, until I figured out the answer.  Now I see it as an opportunity, instead of a frustration. Jay Dee clean 15:03 SWM003: Is sex a need or a want? https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-003-is-sex-a-need-or-a-want/ Wed, 18 Nov 2015 13:00:53 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4667 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-003-is-sex-a-need-or-a-want/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-003-is-sex-a-need-or-a-want/feed/ 12 Today I'm tackling the question: Is sex a need or a want?  I've actually written about this in the past but it was about 3.5 years ago, and I have a lot of new readers since then and now new listeners who haven't heard my views on this subject.  So, here we go. Today I'm tackling the question: Is sex a need or a want?  I've actually written about this in the past but it was about 3.5 years ago, and I have a lot of new readers since then and now new listeners who haven't heard my views on this subject.  So, Today I'm tackling the question: Is sex a need or a want?  I've actually written about this in the past but it was about 3.5 years ago, and I have a lot of new readers since then and now new listeners who haven't heard my views on this subject.  So, here we go. Jay Dee clean 16:46 SWM002: Getting rid of veto power in the bedroom https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-002-getting-rid-of-veto-power-in-the-bedroom/ Wed, 11 Nov 2015 13:44:40 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4622 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-002-getting-rid-of-veto-power-in-the-bedroom/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-002-getting-rid-of-veto-power-in-the-bedroom/feed/ 19 Episode 2 of our podcast!  We can actually call it series now.  Today I'm talking about getting rid of veto power in the bedroom.  Often one spouse, usually the low-drive spouse, has absolute say over when sex happens, or when it doesn't happen.  But is that the way it should be?  I share my thoughts and what I believe the Bible has the say on the subject. Episode 2 of our podcast!  We can actually call it series now.  Today I'm talking about getting rid of veto power in the bedroom.  Often one spouse, usually the low-drive spouse, has absolute say over when sex happens, or when it doesn't happen. Episode 2 of our podcast!  We can actually call it series now.  Today I'm talking about getting rid of veto power in the bedroom.  Often one spouse, usually the low-drive spouse, has absolute say over when sex happens, or when it doesn't happen.  But is that the way it should be?  I share my thoughts and what I believe the Bible has the say on the subject. Jay Dee clean 16:38 SWM001: Welcome to the Sex Within Marriage Podcast https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-001-welcome-to-the-sex-within-marriage-podcast/ Fri, 06 Nov 2015 12:00:41 +0000 https://uncoveringintimacy.com/?p=4596 https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-001-welcome-to-the-sex-within-marriage-podcast/#comments https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-001-welcome-to-the-sex-within-marriage-podcast/feed/ 9 Well, my regular readers have been asking for a podcast for some time, and I'm finally ready to take the plunge.  This is our first episode of what I plan to be a weekly podcast.  For those who want more information, here are the show notes, or you can listen to the podcast itself.  I'm still learning audio production skills, so be patient with me on the sound.  I hope it will improve over time. Also, I have a cold, so when that has run its course, that should help as well.  Nevertheless, I'd love to hear your feedback on our first episode. And for all our regular readers, please come out to support us.  If you have an Apple product, hit subscribe for iTunes, if you have an android device, hit subscribe for Android, help us spread the word of this new podcast, because every subscribe is a "vote" in the various "featured podcasts" lists.  Thank you in advance for helping us help more marriages. Well, my regular readers have been asking for a podcast for some time, and I'm finally ready to take the plunge.  This is our first episode of what I plan to be a weekly podcast.  For those who want more information, here are the show notes, Well, my regular readers have been asking for a podcast for some time, and I'm finally ready to take the plunge.  This is our first episode of what I plan to be a weekly podcast.  For those who want more information, here are the show notes, or you can listen to the podcast itself.  I'm still learning audio production skills, so be patient with me on the sound.  I hope it will improve over time. Also, I have a cold, so when that has run its course, that should help as well.  Nevertheless, I'd love to hear your feedback on our first episode.<br /> <br /> And for all our regular readers, please come out to support us.  If you have an Apple product, hit subscribe for iTunes, if you have an android device, hit subscribe for Android, help us spread the word of this new podcast, because every subscribe is a "vote" in the various "featured podcasts" lists.  Thank you in advance for helping us help more marriages. Jay Dee clean 14:52