SWM 029
Episode 29. Today we’re answering questions about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low sex drives.
SWM029 – Fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers and work during sex
Glossary Term: libido mismatch
Definition: 'Libido mismatch' refers to a situation in a marital relationship where one partner experiences a significantly higher or lower sexual desire compared to the other, potentially leading to tension or dissatisfaction.
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