Definition: 'Boundaries' refer to the clear, mutually agreed upon limits and expectations between partners in a relationship that protect their physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being while respecting individual autonomy.
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A wife married twenty years asks whether a nude beach, explicit movies and a clothing-optional resort are okay if they aren’t lusting and aren’t sleeping with anyone else. Why that’s the wrong test, and three questions to decide with instead.
You know the cycle. Something happens, a tone of voice, a forgotten commitment, a moment that stings, and suddenly you’re both defending your corners instead of actually connecting. You talk at each other. You wait for your turn to explain…
Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020 Topics Include: Gang bang fantasy How to make sex not feel like an obligation How to get past sebacks during foreplay Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm A warning about “Boundaries”…
Answering the anonymous questions from April 2019 from our Have A Question page. Topics Include: Wife looking up ex Wife used to be a swinger Is bondage okay? Our sex life is boring Wife destroying self-esteem Is it okay to…
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You remember having advent calendars as a kid? Every day you get a chocolate, or a toy or something. For nearly a whole month, every day there was something exciting to look forward to the next day. Holidays don’t exactly…
It’s been about a month since our last Anonymous Questions posting, so I thought I’d catch up, as I have a couple of questions that I haven’t yet answered. For those who are new to the site, these questions are…
I heard something the other day while listening to a talk by Jenna McCarthy. Divorce is contagious! And the first thing I thought was “What? That’s ridiculous!” But it turns out that having close friends who get divorced increases your…
I received this question last month through our anonymous Have A Question page: I feel like my wife is teasing me sexually. I more days that not, in fact I’d say 5 or 6 days a week she does things…
I received this question almost a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: When we first got together my husband was a reasonable lover in that he seemed to care about my needs somewhat. He quickly turned into…
I received this question last week through our anonymous Have A Question page: I am a 32 year old mom of three little ones, with a pretty good sex drive (2-6a week) but my husband has much higher than me.…
Paul over at The Generous Husband recently wrote a post entitled Defining Sex and it got me thinking. Now, he was looking for a straight, all purpose definition of sex. But, I don’t think we can use that. Actually, I wish he…