Christian couples have a lot of questions about what is and isn’t allowed in the marriage bed. One of them is whether or not sex toys are allowed. Can we use sex toys? Should we use sex toys? There are…
Are sex toys allowed in a Christian marriage?
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How do I know my spouse is my soul-mate?
This is a question that plagues couples, both within and outside of Christianity. It comes in many different forms: Is my spouse my soul mate? Did I miss my soul mate? Is my soul mate still out there? If my…
Is sexual sin worse than other kinds of sin?
This post is basically my response to a Twitter conversation, if it can be called that, which occurred yesterday. I saw this tweet: JimEKey: GOD SAYS #sex outside of #marriage is SIN, OF THE WORST KIND, IT IS SIN AGAINST THE BODY, MEANT…
Reasons Not To Have Sex Survey Results
This was a simple little survey that I created, originally to answer a simple question: do husbands and wife’s agree on whether or not the choice to not have sex on a given night is mutual. This question was raised…
You don’t have time for sex?
This concept presents itself in two ways generally: One spouse has a checklist of things that must occur before sex. See this comment. Life is just too busy and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day. The…
Book Review: Real Marriage
Last week I was asked what my opinions on the book “Real Marriage” by Mark & Grace Driscoll were. I didn’t have any because I hadn’t read the book. I’ve seen the cover here and there, and I’d heard the name,…
Is my spouse attracted to me?
I wrote a survey this weekend to help out with a post and answer a question from a reader: Was their spouse attracted to them? So many people commented, both in the survey, on Facebook, message boards, in emails, comments, etc., that…
Does my husband still find me attractive?
Yesterday morning (4 am my time), I received an anonymous question from a new reader. She’s had a, shall we say, colourful life, but now has settled down, has become a Christian, has a husband and is growing in Christ.…
How does porn use harm a marriage?
In 2012, I wrote a post called What Is Christian Porn? because it was a phrase I was seeing pop up here and there and I thought it was a ridiculous oxymoron. Since then, people looking for “Christian Porn” accounts for…
How to resolve conflict more effectively
A few posts ago, I wrote about How to Stop Fighting, and after thinking about, I decided I wanted to expand on that. I realized that the answer is simple: the talk more. But, that in itself isn’t a full…
Asperger’s Syndrome and marriage
Two posts ago, I wrote about dealing with a non-neural-typical spouse. If you haven’t read it, I highly suggest going back and doing so to frame this post. It also has a lot of content I’m going to leverage in…