Definition: Imaginative mental scenarios often characterized by erotic or intimate themes, which may enhance emotional and physical arousal within the sanctity of marriage.
SWM 156
We trade God’s design for real, vulnerable intimacy for safe, synthetic illusions. Porn, erotica, and AI companions offer connection without cost but train us in selfishness, not love. They promise intimacy without risk, but only real, covenantal relationship can deliver…
SWM 105
Topics include: Threesome temptations Aversion to receiving manual and oral sex Penis size Falling asleep during sexy time
SWM 098
Topics include: Where does the energy come from? Mutual masturbation Sharing fantasies and machines Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz Why do married men masturbate? How do you meet other people? Can I use sex…
SWM 097
Topics include: Where are you? How to hide bruises What role do I have in God changing my heart? Mother of 3 young kids isn’t as interested in sex as husband How to recover from faking orgasms? Husband wants to…
SWM 095
Topics Include: Coming clean about faking orgasms Wanting wife to wear a diaper Wet and messy / humiliation fetish Is oral sex a measure of love? Married and lonely Chastity play Sex outdoors Pre-orgasmic wife
SWM 090
Topics include: Husband who gets defensive about possible porn use Did I change my mind about anal sex? How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation? Is mutual masturbation okay if you’re separated due to work?…
SWM 055
Topics include: Is fingering fornication? Is it wrong to fulfill my wife’s fantasy of having a gang-bang? How to tell my husband sex is bad when he drinks? Husband’s penis keeps falling out during sex Wife doesn’t want to dress…
Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020 Topics Include: Gang bang fantasy How to make sex not feel like an obligation How to get past sebacks during foreplay Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm A warning about “Boundaries”…
Sharing a sexual fantasy with your spouse can be daunting. I’ve received many emails from husbands and wives who have opened up to their spouse about something they want and get so completely shut down and rejected that they never…
Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental. In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us…
I know, I’m answering the same question over and over again, but people keep asking from slightly different angles, so I guess I should keep tackling it. Here’s one I received this weekend: Hi. Is it okay for a Christian…