Tag Archives: sexual exploration

SWM 083 – What is “feeling naughty”?

Hi Jay,
Just a general question, what is the feeling of “feeling naughty”? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply “different” as “naughty” as maybe we don’t have another reference point in our vocabulary? There’s no great issue in our marriage or anything around the topic, just curious for your thoughts. But as a little context that got me thinking – my wife and I had a night in a hotel recently to celebrate our anniversary (which was actually 6 months ago, better late than never). As a treat and for fun, I bought her some lingerie that had a hole in the crotch area. It was very sexy and she loved them and we made love while she wore them. To which she exclaimed “It feels so naughty!”…which I had to agree with, but I’d probably describe more like lots of “fun” whether naughtiness was an element or not. Thanks for your good work! 

SWM 052 – Are Dominance/Submission Games in the Bedroom OK?

Are Dominance_Submission Games in the bedroom OK_

A reader asks:
I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read your post a while ago where you mentioned that humiliation isn’t good for your partner in the long term. Would you consider this to be humiliation? What about the trend to call men “daddy” in bed?

SWM036 – Sexy Memory Foreplay Game

Did you ever play the game “memory” or “concentration” as a child or maybe with your children? Or maybe you new it by another name. You put cards or tiles face down on the table and took turns turning them over, trying to find matches.For this Valentine’s Day we decided to make an adult version of this game to play with your spouse that can also be used as foreplay.

Anonymous Questions – May 30, 2018

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Well, it hasn’t quite been a week, but I wanted to get our weekly email out because of an announcement (if you missed it, subscribe to make sure you don’t miss any more). In the mean time, I also have two anonymous questions from our

The worst time to spice up your sex life

The worst time to spice up your sex life

I’ve written a lot about different ways to spice up your sex life.  Those of you who have been reading a while know I tend to prefer conversations that spark understanding and long-term growth over short-term gimmicks.  However, I have been known to write posts

Taking Advantage of Valentine’s Day

If you’ve been reading here a while, you know, I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day.  That said, I’m perfectly okay with taking advantage of the season when it works in my favour.  I will NOT buy roses at 2x-3x the price, but I