Definition: 'Self-control' refers to the ability to regulate personal behaviors, emotions, and impulses, particularly in the context of physical intimacy, to uphold personal values, commitments, and the mutual respect and consent within a marital relationship.
If you’ve spent any time on this site, you might start to wonder if anyone actually has a good sex life. Problem after problem. Struggle after struggle. Mismatched drives, painful sex, dead bedrooms, porn addiction, resentment. It’s enough to make…
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In this episode, we’re tackling the subjects:How do you deal with deployment and sex drivesHow do we improve sexual intimacyHow to improve our sex lifeSatisfaction and adventurousnessHow do you get your wife to be more dominant in bedAsking doesn’t work,…
Emotions are a good thing. You know how I know? Because Jesus wept. God created us with emotions, and even a sinless Christ without a sinful nature experienced them. Not only that, but He experienced the full gamut of emotions,…
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Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so. This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love,…
How do you answer the question of whether or not it’s okay for widows to masturbate? Well, I got asked this very question back in August and I’ll admit, I’ve been hesitant to answer it. Here’s the comment from our…
Over the years, I’ve heard many people, men and women, say that they wish God would take away their sex drive. In our darkest days of marriage, I did the same myself. These days, I’m glad God didn’t grant me…
There were some people who were … let’s say disgruntled … by my podcast episode last week where I shared my views on solo masturbation. Many argued that there’s no reason single people can’t masturbate. So, I thought I’d write…
Another question from our Have A Question page. Unfortunately, I don’t have any idea what post he read just before asking, but still, I think we can try to answer the question without that. Here we go: I agree with…
This has been an ongoing discussion/disagreement between Paul Byerly and I for just over a year now. I have a great respect for Paul, and enjoy our game of theological tennis, even if we don’t see eye to eye on a few…
I received a question today that frankly stunned me: Do you have anything on, “What to do if you’re a widow or widowed now”, as now there’s no sexual partner but only desires, what do you do? Thank you It…