Definition: It refers to the level of fulfillment, happiness, and contentment both spouses experience within their marital union, often influenced by factors such as mutual respect, effective communication, emotional and physical intimacy, and shared values.
Nearly a year ago someone suggested I redo my 2014 survey on mutual masturbation. I did, and I expanded it considerably. What I got back from 1,043 married Christians was more interesting than I expected. Some of it confirmed what…
We trade God’s design for real, vulnerable intimacy for safe, synthetic illusions. Porn, erotica, and AI companions offer connection without cost but train us in selfishness, not love. They promise intimacy without risk, but only real, covenantal relationship can deliver…
A reader asked: Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old…. any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research? Is there a certain “technique” we should look into (stitches vs something else I read about briefly?) dare I ask,…
In the last couple of weeks, we’ve received a few anonymous questions, and as I mentioned on our weekly update to the newsletter (subscribe here if you haven’t already), I’ll be answering them here for those who want to read…
I’m always going to be in favor of communication, but there are times when you need to stop talking and just start actually doing something, even in marriage where communication is a vital skill. Today we’re going to look at…
Probably the number one piece of advice I hand out to people is “talk to your spouse about it”. It’s amazing how often that simple answer makes huge changes in marriage. But, I wanted to know how much of a…
I get a fair number of emails where one spouse is putting the kids first in the marriage. Most often it’s the wife, but I have had a few emails from wives where it’s the other way around. Putting the kids first…
Yesterday I wrote against using fantasy while having sex. In it I promised that I’d write a post on how to be more mindful during sex. Here are thirteen ways that you can be more present during sex. I hope…
I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex. I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much. So, I thought I’d…
I’ve had a bit of a rough month, personally. Nothing really changed, I just got really tired of the long commute, lack of sleep, high stress and lower pay of my new job, loss of autonomy, and on and on.…
One of the most common pieces of advice I hear from the marriage community is to have a regular weekly, or at worst, monthly, date night. A regular night where you get out of the house and spent time together…