Tag Archives: intimacy building

A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed

A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed

Ever had what you thought was the plan fall apart because your spouse didn’t know that was the plan?  Or vice-versa?  I have!  And I don’t think I’m alone, especially after reading this comment yesterday: My wife and I are on different planets as far

Relief is not the same as enjoyment

I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex.  I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much.  So, I thought I’d take a second to try

Is masturbation for medical reasons okay?

I received this question a couple of days ago through our anonymous Have A Question page and wanted to tackle it quickly as it seemed time sensitive. In the case of medical necessary, is masturbation and pornography okay?Backstory: We’re struggling with infertility. I am a

Is sex work?

Is sex work for you?  What about your spouse?  Do you know?  Now, for me, the answer is a hands down “No”.  I mean, I work hard during sex, and my muscles get tired, I get sweaty and I’m very focused … but I would

Can a marriage survive without sex?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: Can a Christian marriage survive without it ever once being consummated? My wife and I had pain issues in every attempt to consummate our relationship. We stopped trying altogether about

Active Listening

In this week’s challenge, I mentioned active listening as a skill that people should be using, but hadn’t had a post up yet about it.  So, today I’m going to rectify that. Active listening, which I’ve also heard called Listening 2.0 or Level 2 Listening,

Truth or Dare for the married couple

Remember playing Truth or Dare as a teenager?  If not, let me explain.  Truth or dare is a simple game where your fellow gamer requests a “Truth” or a “Dare”, and then you proceed to form a question, or a dare, to put to them.

Are you ready for mother’s day?

Those of you who have been reading this blog for a while know that the most dangerous day of the year for marriages is sneaking up fast.  That’s right, Mother’s Day.  So, this year I thought I’d give you fair warning.  Give you a chance to

When do I give up hope?

A question that comes up often in my talks with spouses is “When do I give up hope?”  After all, if divorce isn’t an option and you can’t make your spouse do anything, what are the chances that they’re just going to “come around” and be