Tag Archives: conflict resolution

A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed

A plan is not a plan unless it is confirmed

Ever had what you thought was the plan fall apart because your spouse didn’t know that was the plan?  Or vice-versa?  I have!  And I don’t think I’m alone, especially after reading this comment yesterday: My wife and I are on different planets as far

Is make-up sex a myth?

I received a question recently about the topic of make-up sex.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about as well for the last year or so, so I’m glad they brought it up. Here’s the question (used with permission): Today at church, I was in the

Should I listen to my husband or God?

Should I listen to my husband or God?

This morning I was listening to someone answer this question from one of their readers: What does a wife do when her conviction regarding a spiritual principle is different than her husbands?  For example, I have a conviction that we should be tithing. For a while

How to move past hurt

I often deal with spouses who have trouble forgiving their husband or wife for some hurt they caused.  Sometimes it’s big, like an affair.  Sometimes it’s not quite as monumental, like being late somewhere. Large or small issue, often spouses have trouble getting part these

Your spouse’ sin doesn’t counterbalance yours

Not a week goes by that I don’t see this portrayed in a comment or email from a reader.  Their spouse has committed, or is committing, some sin, and so their response is that they have to do something wrong as well.  Sometimes it’s a retaliation,

Silence means everything is okay

I can’t tell you how many couples don’t talk when things are bad.  They just keep silent expecting … I don’t know what.  I guess they expect that their spouse will get the hint and change.  The problem is that sometimes the issue isn’t the

What do you need from me

I’m a solution provider.  It’s just how I’m built.  The majority of my job is finding solutions to business problems.  Usually it’s a technological solution, but not always.  Some days I do more management consulting than IT consulting.  But, it’s not just my job.  I’m like that

Growth takes risk

Sometimes you need to be willing to risk what you have in order to get something better.  I’m not talking about leaving your spouse on the hopes of a better one, though that’s the message the world tries to peddle.  Rather, I’m talking about getting

Dealing with a Bait and Switch

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a month ago: My wife and I have had a troubled sex life for years. Before we were married it was incredible and she fulfilled every desire I had(yes we know it was