Update, August 2026 This survey is from 2013 and had 136 respondents. In 2026 we ran a much larger survey covering oral sex along with manual sex and mutual and solo masturbation, and got 1,058 complete responses. The directions below…
For most of our marriage, oral sex has been very one sided. For the first years, it was solely me performing oral sex on my wife, and never the other way around. It took her years to get accustomed to…
How often do you have sex? Do you know? Are you sure? Do you ever have a disagreement about when the last time you had sex was? Or how often you have sex on average? I came across a study…
Often the idea of scheduling sex is met by resistance from one or both spouses in a marriage.
This has been an ongoing discussion/disagreement between Paul Byerly and I for just over a year now. I have a great respect for Paul, and enjoy our game of theological tennis, even if we don’t see eye to eye on a few…
Christian couples have a lot of questions about what is and isn’t allowed in the marriage bed. One of them is whether or not sex toys are allowed. Can we use sex toys? Should we use sex toys? There are…
This is a question that plagues couples, both within and outside of Christianity. It comes in many different forms: Is my spouse my soul mate? Did I miss my soul mate? Is my soul mate still out there? If my…
This post is basically my response to a Twitter conversation, if it can be called that, which occurred yesterday. I saw this tweet: JimEKey: GOD SAYS #sex outside of #marriage is SIN, OF THE WORST KIND, IT IS SIN AGAINST THE BODY, MEANT…
This was a simple little survey that I created, originally to answer a simple question: do husbands and wife’s agree on whether or not the choice to not have sex on a given night is mutual. This question was raised…
This concept presents itself in two ways generally: One spouse has a checklist of things that must occur before sex. See this comment. Life is just too busy and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day. The…
Last week I was asked what my opinions on the book “Real Marriage” by Mark & Grace Driscoll were. I didn’t have any because I hadn’t read the book. I’ve seen the cover here and there, and I’d heard the name,…