A couple of days ago, I was asked this question through our anonymous Have A Question? page. This couple was considering adding alcohol to their bedroom activities, and asked what the pros and cons might be. Now, I should disclose…
Last week we wrote a post about going to bed naked, how it could improve your frequency of sex. I’ll be honest, it was a hypothesis. I had only a data-set of one marriage to go on (my own). So,…
One thing my wife started doing when we were trying to improve our sex life was to start to go to bed naked. Now, she doesn’t actually like to sleep naked, she gets weird dreams, or is too cold, but…
This is a question that confuses some husbands, and some wives as well, including those who like their hair pulled. They wonder why they like it. They didn’t like it growing up when their siblings pulled their hair, and in…
Well, another year has passed. Sex Within Marriage will be 2 years old in a couple weeks time and it’s been an amazing experience. I’ve learned a lot about blogging, Social Media, and search engine optimization in an effort to…
The other day on our way home from a Christmas party we were talking and Jay was telling me he doesn’t know what to say or how to answer people’s comments and emails when they say that they are being…
In Christianity, we spend a lot of time talking about when is the right time to talk about sex with your kids or sexual boundaries with a boyfriend/girlfriend, but usually the question “When is the best time to talk about…
Last month, I finally got to read The Fantasy Fallacy by Shannon Ethridge. It had been in my kindle for a while just itching to be read. The Fantasy Fallacy addresses a timeless question I think, but made even more…
It’s a fairly common belief: the idea that kids ruin your sex life. We see it in movies, in TV shows. It’s so pervasive that it’s become almost accepted as truth. In fact, there are couples who decide not to…
Update, August 2026 This survey is from 2013 and had 136 respondents. In 2026 we ran a much larger survey covering oral sex along with manual sex and mutual and solo masturbation, and got 1,058 complete responses. The directions below…
For most of our marriage, oral sex has been very one sided. For the first years, it was solely me performing oral sex on my wife, and never the other way around. It took her years to get accustomed to…